My wife (of almost 26 years) and I were struggling to deal with our 15 year son who had become a demanding, controlling, angry, destructive, violent, suicidal and homicidal manic-depressive teenage son. This event alone is well known to be more than enough to break up many good families. And I cannot briefly describe the daily struggle and horror that our home life had become as a result. My wife had a nervous breakdown. In her distressed, worried, and exhausted state she had become depressed, confused, delusional, and irrational. My wife left me, taking our son, and going back to live with her mother. Upon arriving, instead of citing the most obvious motive, she went on to make a litany of bizarre, contradictory, and questionable claims for leaving. Whereupon, instead of acting in wisdom and kindness knowing full well what we were dealing with at home, they jumped on her claims like a pack of piranha. They then went to work, doing their very best to encourage and to ensure that my wife would not even come to consider reconciliation..

Please pray for my marriage. Please pray that my wife will stop taking council from her mother and her brothers and sisters who got divorced. Please pray for my wife to regain her memories of the love, kindness, and devotion we shared. Please pray that my wife will come to her senses and stop lying about our marriage in order to "save face." Please help to tear down that wall that my wife said she had to build around her heart so that she could divorce me and dissolve our family. Please soften my wife's heart and help us to find another way to fix this problem. PLEASE pray that my children get through this trying time without any more suffering and emotional scarring. Please pray for my son that he will know peace and happiness and that he will also realize how loved he is. Help my marriage, that my wife and I may find a way to work it out, instead of divorcing. Please let my wife know that "moving on" by shirking her responsibilities and by breaking all of her promises and commitments is a wrong path to "move on" and that it will lead to her undoing. Please pray that my wife learns this vital lesson. Please, Lord, help my wife and me to work out our problems and help us to fix our marriage. Please pray that the Lord will give me some direction and strength. I will continue to fight for this marriage if it is in His will. Please let my children know that you love them and that we are a part of your family. I pray that you please forgive me for any of my past sins. Thank you.

Hi, You sound like you mean every word in yoiur message. I pray to you lord that you look upon this situation,, and make this man feel alittle better.I know how circumstances get when they go out of control. Please lord if it is yoiur will reunite them together and make both their hearts see the truth, amen

Yes, I do mean every word. Thank you so much for your prayers.

Hey speck, I'm with you and praying for you! I am in a situation somewhat similar! My wife has been gone for 2 nights now. Tonight is night 3. She won't even tell me where she's staying or anything. I demand Satan to leave your situation and let "our" Savior take over! I pray to you Lord anoint Speck, myself, and all other christian marriages to reconcile and follow your word! Let the work of the Devil diminish! Watch over us and let us keep our hope trust and faith, first of all in you, but also in our troubled marriages. Let us all use these difficult times to strengthen our relationship with our spouses through you Lord! I pray this in your heavenly name!! Amen

I do think that both you gentlemen are very brave and honest seeking god. Its very hard when one person is seeking guidance from god and the other is not. I do beleive if we know in our hearts that we love someone, we should seek guidance. I have a partner who is also my carer for my illness. I hope one day we get married. But all I can say is if you truelly love your wife's go out and seek them. Trust is very important also. I hope you find the love youi are looking for. Kind Regards Mandy xx

I believe all is possible with in the lord. 5 years ago i left my husband because of many differences, i can honestly say that i hated his guts at the time. But his constant love and patience for me during the time i had left really awoke my eyes to what love was. Dont miss understand he did not swoon over me or call me every day, he just merely never spoke poorly of me(even though there was many bad things to say) and he was there when i needed to talk and stayed very involved with our then two year old. I eventually (a year later) let the lord in and he softened my heart to our disagreements, it was the wonderfull way my husband handled the problem that made me forgive our marriages faults and see how much i loved him. We have been back together for 5 years now and are coming up on our 10 year anniversary. I love him more then i ever knew possible because the gracefull way he handled my irrational ways during that time. The kicker is even now when we disagree he never throws it back in my face. I would say to you, go one loving your wife, do not throw your life away but lover her even if she doesnt recipricate. Pray she lets the lord into her heart to soften it to your love and exceptence. With the lord the all is possible, hate cant help but be love and arguments are able to be turned into key points in a marriage that made it the strongest. I hope this hold s true for you as it has im my life. God bless. I will pray for you.

Please write what you've written here in a card & send it to her. Bless you & do let us know how its going. & yes I've prayed 4 you.

oh, wow... I really will keep you in my prayers. I hope that God lifts you and your family up in your time of need.

May the Lord God bring comfort and peace that surpasses all understanding right now in the name of Jesus !!! I pray for God's healing touch in every situation in your life and may He direct your every footstep. Continue to pray, trust and believe and watch God work everything out for your good and for His Glory...in Jesus name AMEN !!! You are in my prayers.

we hope every thing will be fine


My wife (of almost 26 years) and I were struggling to deal with our 15 year son who had become a demanding, controlling, angry, destructive, violent, suicidal and homicidal manic-depressive teenage son. This event alone is well known to be more than enough to break up many good families. And I cannot briefly describe the daily struggle and horror that our home life had become as a result. My wife had a nervous breakdown. In her distressed, worried, and exhausted state she had become depressed, confused, delusional, and irrational. My wife left me, taking our son, and going back to live with her mother. Upon arriving, instead of citing the most obvious motive, she went on to make a litany of bizarre, contradictory, and questionable claims for leaving. Whereupon, instead of acting in wisdom and kindness knowing full well what we were dealing with at home, they jumped on her claims like a pack of piranha. They then went to work, doing their very best to encourage and to ensure that my wife would not even come to consider reconciliation..

Please pray for my marriage. Please pray that my wife will stop taking council from her mother and her brothers and sisters who got divorced. Please pray for my wife to regain her memories of the love, kindness, and devotion we shared. Please pray that my wife will come to her senses and stop lying about our marriage in order to "save face." Please help to tear down that wall that my wife said she had to build around her heart so that she could divorce me and dissolve our family. Please soften my wife's heart and help us to find another way to fix this problem. PLEASE pray that my children get through this trying time without any more suffering and emotional scarring. Please pray for my son that he will know peace and happiness and that he will also realize how loved he is. Help my marriage, that my wife and I may find a way to work it out, instead of divorcing. Please let my wife know that "moving on" by shirking her responsibilities and by breaking all of her promises and commitments is a wrong path to "move on" and that it will lead to her undoing. Please pray that my wife learns this vital lesson. Please, Lord, help my wife and me to work out our problems and help us to fix our marriage. Please pray that the Lord will give me some direction and strength. I will continue to fight for this marriage if it is in His will. Please let my children know that you love them and that we are a part of your family. I pray that you please forgive me for any of my past sins. Thank you.[/quote]

I truly hope and pray that things will work out good for all of you!!! I divorced my Husband after 26 years because of his affair with another woman. I have since regretted that. I wish that I could have forgiven him and tried to work things out. I won't blame him completely, I should have tried harder to fix things also. We both had alot of stressful things facing us and I didn't pray hard enough to help our marriage. Now the problem is that I can't forgive myself for not doing the best I could! Please keep praying for your family and hold on to God with all of your heart!!! Let God intervene! Even if she goes ahead with the divorce, please keep praying. Your love for your family is precious!!! And in this world, with everything like it is, things are getting worse everyday. God is our only refuge!!!

im going through a similar situation my wife is seperated from me now and is definitely talking divorce but you know what staying faithful to the lord has got to be the best medicine for this. the devil tries to break apart married people and he only succeeds if we let him he cant destroy what the lord put together lead by example keepgod in your home and all will fall in line i hope others pray for the both of us and if your now out of this then pray for me GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU

I pray that God tranforms your whole household into people filled with intense faith and love towards him, in the name of Lord Jesus Christ. I don't know what your situation is like now, but I advise you to keep your faith strong and your love grand...from what I see you have turned to God and you can never go wrong with that. "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved—you and your household." Acts 16:31

I am praying. God bless, pickles

Thank you all for your prayers. We had a divorce hearing and it didn't go well for my wife and this is despite her having an attorney and my representing myself. I want to thank you all for your prayers, but I should mention that now that I know what my wife has been up to - I no longer want to get back with her. The bible allows me this for the sins she has committed. I imagine that we shall be divorced within the next 30 days or so. Please continue to pray for my family and for my wife's and her mother's soul. God Bless you all!!!

Thank you for the update Speck... I am saddened by your wifes choices and rejoice at your ability to pray for her so soon after your separation. Praise the Lord, that can only come from HIM!!! Sometimes these things happen to free us to do what the Lord wants. Having said that, I believe that there is an incredible attack on the family unit and am so sad to see the breakdown of any family. I pray for the Lord to strengthen my family in unity in Chirst & to the other posters who were having separation issues here... I pray that for you as well. God bless you as you step fourth into your new life & I pray for your injured heart to heal quickly.

Update: The divorce should be done in about a month. Funny thing, when I finally agreed to her unfair demands just because I decided I wanted to end it and move on with my life - she starts making new demands and then new effort after effort to stall the process. Cold feet - I guess? Anyhow, I finally got a lawyer and forced her to bargain with me. I get primary custody, she gets summers and 2 weekends. Also, I ask that no one pray for the restoration of my family anymore. Too much time has passed to restore it and from what my daughter, my son and some of my wife's nieces and nephews tell me I understand that she has been "clubbing" A LOT with her "Catholic Sister" and I tell you when I saw her recently I could see the frequent "mileage" on her face. I will not take someone like her back. Additionally, I made a decision long ago that I always put my children ahead of me and I haven't been doing that - I've been listening to my heart instead of my head. it's better for them if I don't take her back. She disgusts me now anyway. So i ask that you please pray for my wife's soul, my hateful/bitter/angry mother-in-laws soul and for everyone in my family to heal.

P.S. I'm really-really drowsy and I apologize for my poor writing and any "incoherence".

May the Lord Bless All of You - My Loving Brother's and Sisters. You really helped!

All is in my prayers. God bless, pickles

Speck... she dont know what she's got till its gone. I'm thankful that you are guarding your heart against futher hurt and pray for the building up of your entire family including your soon to be ex-wife. We dont know what the future brings, I am always hopeful for the restoration of family because to me when the family unit breaks down satan and his evil schemes wins. Your wife will soon know what she's lost and you need to pray and prepare for how you will deal with that. Will the Lord soften your heart towards her? or has she so defiled the person that she is in your mind that there will be no offer of forgiveness if she returns. If she has moved on sexually I completely understand your position. I would like to request one thing of you in dealing with her and dealing with your kids, please never never put her down in front of them or allow your hurt to speak to them about their mother. This will be difficult but I know you can do it. Try to deal with her in a loving manner even though she doesnt deserve this. When you can, try to accomodate her requests with regards to the kids. Anything else will not reduce her in the eyes of your children & others but only reduce you in the eyes of your children and others. When we can speak of those who totally and completely trash us, with love and encouragement focusing on the positive, Christ in us is evident. God Bless you as you sort your way through this mess that eventually you will look back on and see the Lords will in whatever should transpire. Because you are praying about your situation we know that the Lord is in control and all things work together for your good because you love the Lord and are called according to his good pupose. May you be encouraged today. And I praise the Lord that you can request prayer for both your ex-wife & your ex motherinlaw, it speaks to who you are as a Christian man.

Your family is in my prayers.