Heart ache

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Lecrae

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Can you pray for me? My heart is broken because of supposed 'love'. Every time I like a girl I end up getting hurt in one way or another, and I never even get the chance to ask her out, which is why I've been single my whole life. The latest girl that I liked just recently got a boyfriend even though I could have swore she was leading me on (aka hinting that she liked me). Maybe I should just stay single for the rest of my life? Never like another girl again? Even though I will always end up liking another girl, both of those options sound very sad, lonely, but good at this stage in my life because I feel that I will be less likely to be hurt again. Why don't the girls I like ever like me? Is it because of my looks? My attitude? My higher than average standards for guys? I don't know. All I know is that I keep getting hurt even though they aren't meaning to hurt me (and most of the time they don't know that I got hurt by them). I'm just about to say screw it to love because it does more harm than good (romantic love that is).
 
Sevndust

Sevndust

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you can't allow yourself to be so passive, you've just gotta go after the girl you like and worry about the rest later. if its not meant to be, then you'll figure that out down the road. women are attracted to confident guys so sometimes you've just gotta go out on a limb and take a risk. it won't always work out but i think you'll discover that the juice is worth the squeeze...you can't win big in the stock market if you don't take a chance. there's that common misconception that alot of girls like the 'pricks' and yeah i can definitely see that however i think it's more of a need for an assertive approach on the guy's side. hope this helps
 
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DanuckInUSA

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Skip the dating try a courtship next time. Prayers for you as hurting sucks.
 
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Lecrae

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DanuckInUSA said:
Skip the dating try a courtship next time. Prayers for you as hurting sucks.
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I've never even been on a date before. That's the bad part. I start to like a girl for a while, get to know her and become friends with her and that's as far as I get before the heartache begins. And what is courtship?
 
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holydaveholy

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Dating is the worst.

One day you will be married and this will all be settled.

You are in my prayers.
 
shemaiah

shemaiah

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Jesus loves you, and He will make a way. I will be praying for you bro. Finding the correct woman is not easy, but through Christ's grace you will find her.
 
pickles

pickles

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praying for you in Jesus!

God bless.
pickles
 
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sinnomorePTL

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expect a miricle !!!

Dear brother, you are a fine looking young man. God has a very special woman out there for you. Unfortunityly, you can not rush the situation, if you do you can wind up with terrible problems.

Have patience brother, God will not disapoint you !!!

Have a great day in Jesus

Love in Jesus
bro Gary
Lecrae said:
Can you pray for me? My heart is broken because of supposed 'love'. Every time I like a girl I end up getting hurt in one way or another, and I never even get the chance to ask her out, which is why I've been single my whole life. The latest girl that I liked just recently got a boyfriend even though I could have swore she was leading me on (aka hinting that she liked me). Maybe I should just stay single for the rest of my life? Never like another girl again? Even though I will always end up liking another girl, both of those options sound very sad, lonely, but good at this stage in my life because I feel that I will be less likely to be hurt again. Why don't the girls I like ever like me? Is it because of my looks? My attitude? My higher than average standards for guys? I don't know. All I know is that I keep getting hurt even though they aren't meaning to hurt me (and most of the time they don't know that I got hurt by them). I'm just about to say screw it to love because it does more harm than good (romantic love that is).
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savedcass

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I feel that you shouldn't even focus on a girl at all. Dont even let it flood your mind whatsoever, just focus on God, read the word and keep your faith. As long as you are doing what you are suppose to do when it comes to trusting, loving, and living for God, everything else will fall into place. Focusing on other women and they're agenda takes your focus off God, trust me, I am single and sometimes I find myself wondering when the right one will come my way, but I trust that God has the right one out there for me and he will come when it is time. Those women that hurt you were just not the ones and just wasn't meant for you, trust that God has the woman of your dreams out there and she is coming, God just might still be trying to work on you, and maybe even her, so that when you do find each other, everything will be right and you can have the relationship you've been waiting for and hopefully your relationship puts God first. So, with all that said, jus try to not focus on the opposite sex so much and focus on God, that is what I'm trying to do. Our significant other will come when it is time, I trust that God will bring him in my life when its time, and the same goes for you. God bless!
 
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Lecrae

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savedcass said:
I feel that you shouldn't even focus on a girl at all. Dont even let it flood your mind whatsoever, just focus on God, read the word and keep your faith. As long as you are doing what you are suppose to do when it comes to trusting, loving, and living for God, everything else will fall into place. Focusing on other women and they're agenda takes your focus off God, trust me, I am single and sometimes I find myself wondering when the right one will come my way, but I trust that God has the right one out there for me and he will come when it is time. Those women that hurt you were just not the ones and just wasn't meant for you, trust that God has the woman of your dreams out there and she is coming, God just might still be trying to work on you, and maybe even her, so that when you do find each other, everything will be right and you can have the relationship you've been waiting for and hopefully your relationship puts God first. So, with all that said, jus try to not focus on the opposite sex so much and focus on God, that is what I'm trying to do. Our significant other will come when it is time, I trust that God will bring him in my life when its time, and the same goes for you. God bless!
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Thanks for your advice, but I have a question. God says that it is not good for a man to be alone and that we should have a partner, so shouldn't we be searching for a partner instead of waiting for that partner to find us (if they ever do)? I know to put God first in any relationship, I would never say anything against that. I'm just saying that since God says it's bad for a man to be alone shouldn't we still be searching instead of waiting and almost ignoring. I say 'almost ignoring' because I've tried what you've said before by thinking of God only and not women. But when that happens I tend to ignore women in general (not socially, just romantically) which doesn't really set me up well with any future relationships.
 
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