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The_boy

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To give the short version of the story, I've known a girl for almost 6 years. I've been one of her best friends for the entirety of this time. She had/ and has trust enough in me to tell me anything she is feeling, or is worried about and ask for my opinion. One day, she told me she loved me (a common thing for her meaning she cares about me) but this time she told me she was IN love with me as well. We started dating and about 3 months in she had a breakdown and told me that she knew her parents wouldn't approve of me because I'm from a different town, and they didn't know me at all. She said she wanted to stay with me (and hide me from her parents) but she also felt like hiding me was like lying to them (which I can see) and she desperately craves her parents approval. So... as the title suggests, I got dumped. I'd loved her deeply. It's been a month since she dumped me and I still hurt badly. I'm able to get up and "appear" normal but daily living right now is more of a chore than it should be for me. My mind is always muddled still, my body still feels heavy, and it seems that everything I look at is bathed in the grayish light that you see on overcast rainy days. I recognize that I'm depressed. Does anyone have some words of encouragement? I'm in new town and haven't found a church I like yet, plus my only transportation is a bicycle.
 
damombomb

damombomb

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Dear Brother dont worry,God has not forgotten you! Everything happens for a reason. I am sure God has better plans for you.
When one door shuts another opens.Even better.The Lord Knows what is best for you! Pray that God will take her off your heart
and mind!Lord bless him dailywith wonderful new friends. Also a new town can be a new start.
God Bless You!
 
pickles

pickles

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Praying for you in Jesus that all His comfort, streangth, prvision and help will fill you.

Hugs and God bless.
pickles
 
shemaiah

shemaiah

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When Matt Theissen of the band 'Relient k' got dumped, they released an album (Forget and Not Slow Down) full of 'getting back up' songs, from the album try listening to Terminals, Forget and Not Slow Down, Over it and Therapy... Hope that helps :)
and feel free to talk about it with me!
 
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YoungServant

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The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them;
he delivers them from all their troubles.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit. The righteous person may have many troubles,
but the LORD delivers him from them all;

Nothing else is needed to make you depressed, than to fancy you are so.
 
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sinnomorePTL

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Dear Brother, have you talked to this girl since your breakup?

If you can, you might ask her if she would mind if you contacted her parents. If she still has feelings for you, and thinks they would not mind, you might write them a letter explaining your feelings, your charector and ask their permission to see her.

If for some reason this will not work, all is definately not lost.

God has a wonderful plan for your life. God has a wonderful woman waiting for you too! Perhaps it will be this girl when she comes of age, or perhaps someone else.

I know the pain of losing someone. It is a rough time. Stay close to God and it will grow easier and less painful day by day.

God loves you more than we can know. He does only those things that are in our best interest.

I pray that our Lord will take the sorrow from your heart, and replace it with peace, tranquality and the knowledge that God will never disapoint you, and very soon joy will return to your life, in Jesus name, Amen.

Love in Jesus
brother Gary








The_boy said:
To give the short version of the story, I've known a girl for almost 6 years. I've been one of her best friends for the entirety of this time. She had/ and has trust enough in me to tell me anything she is feeling, or is worried about and ask for my opinion. One day, she told me she loved me (a common thing for her meaning she cares about me) but this time she told me she was IN love with me as well. We started dating and about 3 months in she had a breakdown and told me that she knew her parents wouldn't approve of me because I'm from a different town, and they didn't know me at all. She said she wanted to stay with me (and hide me from her parents) but she also felt like hiding me was like lying to them (which I can see) and she desperately craves her parents approval. So... as the title suggests, I got dumped. I'd loved her deeply. It's been a month since she dumped me and I still hurt badly. I'm able to get up and "appear" normal but daily living right now is more of a chore than it should be for me. My mind is always muddled still, my body still feels heavy, and it seems that everything I look at is bathed in the grayish light that you see on overcast rainy days. I recognize that I'm depressed. Does anyone have some words of encouragement? I'm in new town and haven't found a church I like yet, plus my only transportation is a bicycle.
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Anna80

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" All things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28
God bless you!
 
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Ugly

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I don't suggest going back & trying to resolve this. I was engaged once to an adult woman whose parents did not like me. This woman was also very concerned with having her parents approval. Long story short, her parents won out. Anytime you have an adult that is that strongly affected by their parents wishes, you are looking for a life time of in-law problem. Typically these parents are very intrusive & controlling & until she learns to stand up for herself & make her own choices, anyone who would marry her would have their constant influence in the marriage.
Just remember healing takes time, its a process. Keep busy, distractions can help because always focusing on the problem can sometimes make it seem larger, or even take longer to heal. I know this from a lot of experience.
 
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Laraecloo90

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I definitly hope and will pray for God to help you get through your rainy days. I always look at relationships as if they were ment to be then God will make them be. It may hurt now but maybe she just was a stop along the way to finding the one that will truly fullfill you.
 
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meinjesus2

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lost loves are like an addiction....we must pray for deliverance from torment of them...
 
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