Problem w/ ex friend.

Well, w/ all the other prayer requests here, this will seem a bit petty, but, it is a problem, all the same. So, this is my problem: I had this friend I met in church (or I thought she was a friend, ne way)...She would come 2 my house almost every day, & every day, would basically treat my family & me w/ rudeness & disrespect! Now, I know ur wondering y I let this go on...well, lets just say she is extremely good at playing the victim, & making ppl feel sorry 4 her! I thought I was being the kind of friend God wanted me 2 be. Even when she all but addmited that she had a thing 4 my boyfriend, I still said nothing! & when she realized she couldnt have him she went after my married brother! He & his wife were separated at the time, but he still loved her...& missed his kids, but did that stop my "friend"? No, it didnt! She still wanted him...& I thought a christian would know better than 2 go after a married man. But, that didnt happen 4 her either & he & his wife got back 2gether. Anyhow, after that whole situation, our supposed friendship became even more strained. She was constantly hurtful 2 me, like I was the reason her life wasnt going right. I tried 2 distance myself from her w/out hurting her feelings, which I think made her hate me even more. Now all the other ppl she associates w/ give me looks like Im the devil incarnate! Ive done nothing 2 this girl, or these ppl (who r supposed 2 b christians) yet they still lie & talk about me, like we r in jr high or something. Ive tried 2 b the better person & just ignore them but sometimes, it really gets 2 me that adults could b this ridiculous!
I dont know what 2 do.. do I confront her or just let the whole situation go & never say ne thing...but then she would never get called on her actions.
I know there r more serious situations that need prayer... but this has been weighing heavy on my heart 4 a long time! Please pray 4 me, that God will let me know what 2 do, & ne advice u have is welcome as well...& pray 4 this girl & these ppl...they need it desperately! (sorry this was so long! told u this was heavy on my heart!)

It's good that you did distance yourself from her though, very few good things come without bad things.

I've had the same problem with someone doing wrong against me yet they play the victim to everyone else and then they all think you're the bad person. Eventually though people like that trip up and you will find that there are other people out there that have come across her and know what she's like. As for the people who are talking about you, well they can't be too Christian seeing as God looks down upon gossip. They will find out about your "friend" in time. People always do. Little things will start to click in with them especially if she is lying about you and trying to tarnish your reputation. Lies produce inconsistencies and they'll be brought to light soon enough. As for you, you sound like you are doing what you should be doing which is turning the other cheek and trying to ignore everyone. That's about all you can really do. Continue to be really nice eg killing them with kindness. Nobody can resist kindness especially in the midst of unkindness. Don't get defensinve or show them that you are bothered by what they are doing. Keep your head looking straight ahead and don't look at them and remember that the only opinion you should really care about is God's because he is the only one that truly knows you. And he will deal with her when the time is right for him. Until then just keep praying and airing your grievances to God. Put on worship music and saturate yourself in the word continually and then I'm sure you will develop more strength to endure. Remember that we live for God, not for men. Hope this helps you

Love Jenna

Thank you, Jenna! It does help, very much. Its good 2 be reminded that Im NOT completly insane 4 not telling her off! & Ive wanted 2! Soooo many times! But I wont! Thanx again!

THANK YOU! I appreciate that!