I recently confronted my father about past abuse and was officially disowned on Monday. My mom has been in the loop since I wrote my letter and I was very explicit that I did not want her saying anything to anyone. I told her it was not her place anymore because we are all adults. I spoke with my sister who was my fathers victim though she doesn't remember. She's understandably confused but supportive. I hose not to speak to my brother because a conversation with him wouldn't go anywhere positive.
When I spoke with my stepmom on Monday she told me my dad's cancer is back. It could be true or it could be the manipulation they're so good at. Anyhow my siblings didn't yet know (if it's true) that his cancer is back and it wasn't my news to tell them. I very plainly told my mother not to speak to anyone or tell them about the cancer. However, she ignored me and spoke to both my sister and my brother. My sister believed her and is still supportive. My brother is very angry. He had this image of a perfect father and he's been having a hard time letting it go for years. He thinks that I'm being judgmental. And while I admit I've judged my brother before, I believe most of his feeling judged comes from how we were compared growing up. My mom wanted the world for me, but she was just glad to that my brother stayed out of jail.
Anyway, my brother and sister are having a very difficult time. My mom told my brother the cancer is back, but my sister does not yet know. Neither of them are Christians.