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rauleetoe

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I am saying this, and hope it does not seem as gossip. I shared in a previous thread posting that a friend, someone i was kinda fond of in a way before in a dating way..she's confessed to me her 'crush/love' for a gay woman. This is a gal who is supposed to be a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ mind you. I am not perfect, but i do not feel it would be right to simply be quiet and let her just go down this path without warning her, in love of course and not being proud but out of concern for her. We stayed friends albeit she has kinda avoided me, and i feel now it's because i've done what i can to live for God and she's been running from that perhaps is one good reason why she's avoided me. She was afraid to tell me but i haven't judged her, she knows the Bible teaches against it. But was trying to justify her actions by saying, Would a loving God turn his back on me for choosing to love? I responded by saying i know that homosexuality isn't an easy topic and many harp on it and only it and there is no easy explanation as to why one feels this way. I know she dated one guy who called her out for being overweight and its been an issue for her since then, even when she met me she kept her walls up. I have tried to be a friend to this gal still in all this,before knowing she was going this route an assumed the best when i saw facebook posts with her and a girl who is obviously trying to dress and look butch next to her. I assumed maybe they were just friends of maybe she just wasn't a feminine girl and was still straight. So..my thing is, do i keep my mouth shut? Which i do not think is right, or do i risk her running to the hills, which will probably happen honestly..but tell her the truth so her blood is not on my hands? I think i answered my question, but i am trying to find a way, if i get a chance..to talk to her about this..i just think she is very insecure and has had her walls up with men for so long that she never gives herself a chance to open up with a guy, that she was 'easy pickings' for this lesbian girl due to being very insecure. Make sense?
 
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petergos

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alot of people go through phases can only pray that is what this is I pray she does realise and gives you a chance at being more then friends and the lesbian thing is just a temporary thing. I think you should be honest but respectful because at the end of day decision is up to her and only god is allowed to judge and he loves everyone straight or gay and also people respond better and will listen if you are respectful about it. If I was in your boots I'd be blunt and say Im attracted to you and I know we are friends but would you like to go out for dinner. anyways I hope I helped.

God bless
 
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sound7

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GOD BLESS YOU my brother, it is a very difficult topic to talk about from human perspective but from Gods throne room, His love in action is all you need and to love your friend back to the Lord, you need to love her by your kind words, love her when she needs a sholuder to rest all her thoughts etc, love her when everything seems so confusing, love her when she is with her friend, love her with hugs of joy, love her with godly attitude, love her with your heart and soul, lover her by listening without a word spoken, lover her with tears of joy everytime you guys meet again, love her by been there, lover her by just standing up for her like a goodfriend should, lover her in to the kingdom again because you are the only person that is a vessel of honour in the hand of God, leading you, directing you like a man after Gods own HEART " He love this world that He gave everything". So my friend LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE is Her freedom to CHRIST and Gods love through you, in you, with you and for you,will cast away everything you could ever imagine. And your LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN. Bless you. (Praying for you alone)
 
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rauleetoe

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petergos said:
alot of people go through phases can only pray that is what this is I pray she does realise and gives you a chance at being more then friends and the lesbian thing is just a temporary thing. I think you should be honest but respectful because at the end of day decision is up to her and only god is allowed to judge and he loves everyone straight or gay and also people respond better and will listen if you are respectful about it. If I was in your boots I'd be blunt and say Im attracted to you and I know we are friends but would you like to go out for dinner. anyways I hope I helped.

God bless
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Oh i already did go out with her actually once. She ran for the hills afterwards, not because of anything i did. She told me i was a perfect gentleman. My reason for sharing this isn't to pray she 'comes to me' but to pray she rights her life with God. I am the last one to judge anyone regarding their 'identity' actually. I am the most non judgemental christian you'd probably ever meet in all honesty. But i am just concerned for her. As a friend, she's long told me she feels 'I can do better than her'. Whatever that means.
 
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rauleetoe

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sound7 said:
GOD BLESS YOU my brother, it is a very difficult topic to talk about from human perspective but from Gods throne room, His love in action is all you need and to love your friend back to the Lord, you need to love her by your kind words, love her when she needs a sholuder to rest all her thoughts etc, love her when everything seems so confusing, love her when she is with her friend, love her with hugs of joy, love her with godly attitude, love her with your heart and soul, lover her by listening without a word spoken, lover her with tears of joy everytime you guys meet again, love her by been there, lover her by just standing up for her like a goodfriend should, lover her in to the kingdom again because you are the only person that is a vessel of honour in the hand of God, leading you, directing you like a man after Gods own HEART " He love this world that He gave everything". So my friend LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE is Her freedom to CHRIST and Gods love through you, in you, with you and for you,will cast away everything you could ever imagine. And your LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN. Bless you. (Praying for you alone)
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I agree. Thing is, she's avoiding hanging out with me, or talking to me much. We just talk via online now, and I honestly would not force anyone/insist on anyone to hang again if they are not initiating or reciprocating anything I do. For about a month i tried getting a hold of her. Only to finally get a hold of her now.
 
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rauleetoe said:
I am saying this, and hope it does not seem as gossip. I shared in a previous thread posting that a friend, someone i was kinda fond of in a way before in a dating way..she's confessed to me her 'crush/love' for a gay woman. This is a gal who is supposed to be a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ mind you. I am not perfect, but i do not feel it would be right to simply be quiet and let her just go down this path without warning her, in love of course and not being proud but out of concern for her. We stayed friends albeit she has kinda avoided me, and i feel now it's because i've done what i can to live for God and she's been running from that perhaps is one good reason why she's avoided me. She was afraid to tell me but i haven't judged her, she knows the Bible teaches against it. But was trying to justify her actions by saying, Would a loving God turn his back on me for choosing to love? I responded by saying i know that homosexuality isn't an easy topic and many harp on it and only it and there is no easy explanation as to why one feels this way. I know she dated one guy who called her out for being overweight and its been an issue for her since then, even when she met me she kept her walls up. I have tried to be a friend to this gal still in all this,before knowing she was going this route an assumed the best when i saw facebook posts with her and a girl who is obviously trying to dress and look butch next to her. I assumed maybe they were just friends of maybe she just wasn't a feminine girl and was still straight. So..my thing is, do i keep my mouth shut? Which i do not think is right, or do i risk her running to the hills, which will probably happen honestly..but tell her the truth so her blood is not on my hands? I think i answered my question, but i am trying to find a way, if i get a chance..to talk to her about this..i just think she is very insecure and has had her walls up with men for so long that she never gives herself a chance to open up with a guy, that she was 'easy pickings' for this lesbian girl due to being very insecure. Make sense?
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Let your friend know that God is love, and desires us to know this love.
But the love she knows, is the world"s love, thus imperfect and will die.
God Our Father wants us to know His perfect love, for His love is filled with truth and eternal life.
No love that is from the world can compeat or fill the desire of your heart .
Yes this perfect love calls for us to do as God Our Father asks, but this is because God's love is perfect!
In denying self, the love of the world, through Jesus, God will fullfill this perfect love in you as promised, His love is filled with comfort, hope, truth, joy, obedience, protection, delight, laughter,faith, wisdom, it is always with you,Justice, forgiveness, His presance,His salvation in Jesus, His Holy Spirit, and peace.
God's love is so loving, one could spend eternity recieivng it and knowing it, and still discover there is more of it's joy.
Ask her if she is willing to set aside this eternal love for a worldly love that will never fill the emptyness in her heart, and is this worldly love worth saying no to God's love.

Your friend and you are in my prayers in Jesus, the joy of God's love and salvation for your freind, and wisdom for you. :)

God bless
pickles
 
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psychomom

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rauleetoe said:
I am saying this, and hope it does not seem as gossip. I shared in a previous thread posting that a friend, someone i was kinda fond of in a way before in a dating way..she's confessed to me her 'crush/love' for a gay woman. This is a gal who is supposed to be a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ mind you. I am not perfect, but i do not feel it would be right to simply be quiet and let her just go down this path without warning her, in love of course and not being proud but out of concern for her. We stayed friends albeit she has kinda avoided me, and i feel now it's because i've done what i can to live for God and she's been running from that perhaps is one good reason why she's avoided me. She was afraid to tell me but i haven't judged her, she knows the Bible teaches against it. But was trying to justify her actions by saying, Would a loving God turn his back on me for choosing to love? I responded by saying i know that homosexuality isn't an easy topic and many harp on it and only it and there is no easy explanation as to why one feels this way. I know she dated one guy who called her out for being overweight and its been an issue for her since then, even when she met me she kept her walls up. I have tried to be a friend to this gal still in all this,before knowing she was going this route an assumed the best when i saw facebook posts with her and a girl who is obviously trying to dress and look butch next to her. I assumed maybe they were just friends of maybe she just wasn't a feminine girl and was still straight. So..my thing is, do i keep my mouth shut? Which i do not think is right, or do i risk her running to the hills, which will probably happen honestly..but tell her the truth so her blood is not on my hands? I think i answered my question, but i am trying to find a way, if i get a chance..to talk to her about this..i just think she is very insecure and has had her walls up with men for so long that she never gives herself a chance to open up with a guy, that she was 'easy pickings' for this lesbian girl due to being very insecure. Make sense?
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Make sense? Indeed, it does. :(
My daughter was lured (but went willingly) into this life in much the same way.
I pray for your friend, because once begun, it's very difficult to leave. The "support system" of the LGBTQ community makes sure of that. :(

I love your sensitive heart, that you're concerned about not gossipping. :)
Thanks for the opportunity to pray, and for your own sweet heart. :)
~ellie
 
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chellebee

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you and her both are in my prayers. The devil has a way of using the one's we love to get us down. First of all I want to say, you did the right thing by not condoning to her lifestyle choice and keeping your faith to God. She is avoiding you because she knows deep down inside you are right and she what she is doing is an abomination in God's eyes. I will pray that God will give you the strength to keep your faith and that he will give you the words to bring her back to reality. I will pray that God will open her ears and she will listen to what you have to say. That she will allow God into her life and choose the life he has planned for her. Although it is tearing you up if she keeps avoiding you all you can do is pray and leave it in God's hands. Please know you are not alone we all are praying for you. God Bless
 
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sound7

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Isa 40:31 " But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew [their] strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; [and] they shall walk, and not faint "

Still praying for you amen.
 
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sound7

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rauleetoe said:
I agree. Thing is, she's avoiding hanging out with me, or talking to me much. We just talk via online now, and I honestly would not force anyone/insist on anyone to hang again if they are not initiating or reciprocating anything I do. For about a month i tried getting a hold of her. Only to finally get a hold of her now.
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Just wait and see what the Lord is about to do, thats Ok if she's avoiding hanging out with you, that what sin does, remember her struggle is not against flesh and blood RIGHT, (Eph 6:12) so fasting and praying for her is what you do first (Matt 17:21 " Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting") before talking to her online or making contact. This is your testimony, this is your breakthrough with the Lord using you to reach out to her in LOVE. You don't have to intiate anything, you do nothing at all, allow the Holy Spirit to lead you and remember you're most properly her only contact to the house and a christian friend. I will pray 3 things for you mighty man of valour (1)for the gift of the word of wisdom over you (this is a supernatural revelation or insight, into the divine will and purpose showing how to solve any problem that may arise) (2) The gift of the word of knowledge is (a supernatural revelation of divine knowledge or insight in the divine mind, will, and also the plans of others that man could not know of himself) (3) The gift of discerning of spirits (this is a supernatural revelation or insight into the realm of spirits to detect them and there plans and to read the minds of men) Blessing over you, remember only the Holy who convict the sinner and all you have to do is show her the love of God by listening to the Holy Spirit leading. I was once like her walk away from everything, so I know and understand what shes going through, I came back to the Lord in the middle of a adult party, beacuse God use a friend like you to keep in contact with me once a month for a long time, He basically love me back to the Lord again, he never once mention about God the church, he just love, love, his action is love, his word is love, his phone call is love, and this LOVE eventually brought reality into my heart. What keep me in contact with him is what he said, "when ever you need a friend, anything at all, where ever please let me be the first to help" and the rest is history. Amen bless you. :)
 
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shekaniah

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She is lucky to have a caring friend like you...
I will pray for her and all who know and love her...
In Jesus Loving Name, Amen
 
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