In DESPERATE need of some spiritual advice...and LOTS OF PRAYER!!.....

I thought this year was supposed to be a less stressful year than last....but, I guessed wrong, COMPLETELY wrong. At one point in our lives, we must all come face to face with our own personal demons. And when one has an addictive personality, those demons are terrifyingly hard to face, at times....ALMOST impossible to face. As a newly recovering alcoholic and addict, I am now facing the realm of addiction from the other side.....as my husband entered detox for his 8-10 year opiate addiction, which spiraled into a 5 month intravenous use of anything he could get his hands on. He is now addicted to "the needle".

A little back story....like I said before, I am a NEWLY recovering alcoholic/addict. I have never been to detox or rehab. I have been clean off hard drugs for 7 years; prescription pain/anxiety medication, for almost 2 years; and alcohol for since January 1, 2013. Hubby and I have been together for 10 years(we have been married twice to each other). We have been separated for over 2 years, and I filed for divorce and custody of our son back in October(due to his relapse and ongoing drug use/spiraling addiction). We lost our son back in May of 2011, due to our drug use/abuse. We regained custody in November/December of that same year.

Ever since hubby entered Detox and the treatment facility, he now wants his family back. He doesn't want me to go through with the divorce. I still love him, but I don't trust him. And, I can't afford to jeopardize my own sobriety....Our son has been diagnosed with Adjustment Disorder with Mixed Disturbances of Emotions and Conduct, and since November 24, 2012, I have been taking him to weekly counseling. I know God says no to divorce, unless it involves infidelity....I just don't know....is it a good idea for me, as a newly recovering alcoholic/addict, to maintain contact with my husband while he is at the treatment facility? He and his family have said that I am the reason he is in treatment...that he wouldn't be alive today if it weren't for me. I don't want to abandon him now when he needs me the most, but I feel alot of anger and resentment at times, when I do see him/talk to him.

Hello, I will be praying for you!

But I want to direct you to this link. I really recommend that you watch this. I know for sure that God will speak to you through it.

Direction Without Doubt

God bless you for all your recovery and courage to do what is right for your child.
All you ask is in my daily prayers in Jesus.


I cannot tell you what choice to make, but you are correct, untill your husband is clean and remains that way, he puts you and your child at risk.
You can tell him that there cannot be a marraige unless he is clean.
Even if you divorce, you can always marry him again, if he sustains a clean life free of drugs and alch.
First though, as you said, you need healing of your own heart in Jesus, and should forgive all, yourself and your husband, no matter what the outcome for him.
To forgive him is to releace yourself from the sins he commited, and gives him over to God's care.

You, your husband and son will remain in my prayers in Jesus for all healing and His loving care.

Huge hugs and God bless
pickles

If hubby put himself back into rehab I would talk to him, that's the only way the anger and resentment is going to get worked out and frankly it should be before either of you move to drop or finalize the divorce. I wouldn't live with him, while you can support each others efforts in sobriety he needs support outside of you and he needs to establish it before he's with you 24/7. And so do you.

You have my prayers

I'm in awe of you Congrats on ur sobriety abs regaining your son
I definitely will be praying. I know it gotta be tugging at your heart. you need to have a strong support system. so if you don't get it. like I tell my.child you might tell him. "don't tell me show me" remember overcoming addiction is for life. don't be mad focus all energy on your recovery and that son of yours. in my prayers

Could the two of you meet outside your home and just pray together occasionally? That is contact with a chaperone (God).

Thank you so much for that link! The speaker said something about "in your current spiritual state, you're not ready for it. You need more time for God to work on your heart"....Not right now.....is what I feel like God is saying to me. and for me to TRUST HIM...wholeheartedly and with blind faith...

@RickyZ....That is what I have been feeling deep down, about not living together right away when he gets out of rehab. I talked to him on the phone tonight, and I was honest with him about the living together. You could tell it wasn't what he wanted to hear, but it is what he needed to hear.

@shae0104....thank you so much for your encouraging words! I love that saying, and going to have to use it! "don't tell me, show me!"

@pickles....I couldn't agree more....you have no idea how much that means to hear the encouragement regarding my son....our road has definitely NOT been easy, but I know God is with us every step of the way!

Lord, give this person wisdom and revelation. Show her where to go and what to do. Im Jesus name, Amen!Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.

This is the time for you to be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might, you need to first be sure you are right with God, and walking the walk, then you can be a strong example for your family, keep yourself pure and undefiled from all wilfull sin and disobedience, and seek the mercy of God, through real repentance and faith!

let us cleanse ourselves!

2Co 7:1 Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

We are commanded to cleanse ourselves. This translates out as purity:
G2511(to clense)
καθαρίζω
katharizō
kath-ar-id'-zo
From G2513; to cleanse (literally or figuratively): - (make) clean (-se), purge, purify.

Many will say that God will do the cleansing after we come to Him still defiled and filled with iniquity, which translates out as, God cleanses the sinner gradually, and all filthiness of the flesh and spirit isn’t mandatory for the sinner to do first.
But as stated, having therefore these promises that come to a cleansed and purified heart, that has been made pure through repentance and brokenness, 2 Cor 7-10-11, the cleansing part is what we do, not to save ourselves, but to present ourselves to God, cleansed and purged from all dead works, thus now becoming acceptable to Him, to receive His great and precious promises, which are many.
Now that the vile sins have been repented of (stopped) hoping God will relent of His wrath against the disobedient, we now can perfect Holiness in the fear of God!
So the salvation process isn’t a complicated one, but neither is at a quick one, two, three, you are forever saved and in the kingdom.
No, it comes to the truly repentant heart that has yielded to the word of God, through the great convicting power of the Holy Spirit that has come into the world to convict the lost and dying world, and church, of sin, righteousness, and judgment!
Joh 16:8 And when he is come,(The Holy Spirit) he will reprove(convict, rebuke) the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment.
Mankind now has a free will choice, because he was created upright, and not depraved and unable to choose to obey. He can then succumb to the power of the spirit bearing down on him encouraging him to lay aside all filthiness and wickedness, and seek the mercy of God!
Seperation and holiness isn’t earning anything from God it’s a command to follow, and this is driven by godly fear and reverence to God, who has just granted repentance for the remission of sins to the lost and rebellious sinner who has come to their end as the prodigal did, in utter despair and brokenness, now living the holy (separated) life unto God, in all fear of His great power and judgment, that will fall on those who continue to mock Him and His truth. Gal 6-7.
The growth process of a true follower of Christ is not sinning less and less, IE, less porn watching, less getting drunk, less fornication, less murdering etc.. but a process of growing more in wisdom and following the spirit who now fills the soul of the cleansed and purged saint, no longer full of guile, hate, lust, and pride!(the clearing that takes place in repentance)
The spirit now works in the saint, as they become more aware of their faults and imperfections, and short Comings, leading them through by the convicting power of the spirit, onto greater holiness, and purity, and obedience.
But the big offensive sins must have been put to death, cut off at the roots, and dealt with as Christ commands!
Now a cleansed and purified heart will no longer be hungering and thrusting for the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye and the pride of life, but instead hungering and thirsting for righteousness and purity, being motivated by the spirit in all love, patients, and diligence to walk a holy and sanctified life, not in total perfection but in perfect obedience to the truth, willing to grow, learn and forsake all that the spirit reveals to them, especially anything that can lead to willful sin and rebellion or make another brother or sister stumble!
Tommy
2Co 6:17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
2Co 6:18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.