Transgendered Cousin

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Rockrolla

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About 3 years ago my cousin confided some deep desires to me about wanting to be a boy. She said all the kids in her 7th/8th grade class were bisexual. She told me it became apparent when her crush (male) stopped liking her for a bisexual girl. That was the moment when she started giving this transgender thing a real thought.

I prayed with her about the issue, but when she started having crushes on the girls at church, I told her mom (my aunt). I showed my aunt her blog with rants about how she'd like to be a boy to kiss or be with another girl. Because of this, my cousin no longer confides in me. She scoffs when I or anyone else refers to her by her birth name, or as "daughter" or "she".

She has gone so far as to purchase vests that flatten your chest, and has cut all her lovely curly blonde hair off. I am distraught. Just don't know what to do. I told my pastor but he recommended a christian counselor outside our church to help keep the matter private. My aunt never sought the help of a counselor, and dismissed it as a phase. My aunt does not know how serious it is, my cousin cuts (self harms) and she stopped going to church. I know God is great, but my cousin is going to be 16 this June, and she doesn't even want a sweet 16! It's that serious. Besides prayer and fast, what can we do?
Please keep my cousin Natalia and our family in prayer. Advice is most graciously welcomed. Thank you!
 
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I'll be praying for Natalia and your family. Just be patient and keep showing God's love and kindness to her. I know that situation can be hard to deal with, but God's goodness is enough motivation for people to turn from sin [Romans 2:4]. I pray that the word of God is revealed within her so that she may be set free of any hurt or problems that she's dealing with and that she may head in the path that God has for her.
 
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Jordache

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This issue is very confusing for a lot of people. It's especially confusing when you're a teenager. But God is bigger than this. Love your cousin. Ask The Lord and he will guide you.
 
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ukkez

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i will be praying for her and your family. god bless x
 
willfollowsGod

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Prayers sent up to God in heaven for her and your family. God bless.
 
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Duckies

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Keeping her in my prayers. I really hope she has a change of heart soon through God's will; have seen this happen... not often but have seen it happen.

God Bless Your and Your loved ones!
 
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Powemm

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Lifting all up to God.. knowing He will bring Natalia back to Hos
Loving arms .. He calls each of us by name and has each written in the palm of His hand ..
I can't imagine what that would be like , not only to be the one it's happening to but watching someone I love go through it .. sometimes the moulding shape of who Go is making. Us to be comes with a "knocking off" of the remnants that don't belong .. Know He has her on His Potters wheel.. He does
Some incredible things even with the pieces He casts off.. As for you
Lift her up into Gods hands, love her where God has allowed her to go.. This is why we are here.. To be the light of His
Love shining through the darkness .. I'll be praying for Natalia and your family..
In christ
 
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Praying for Natalia in Jesus's name for all help, healing and truth in her heart.
Sometimes doing something can only make the person worse, as they have to prove you wrong.
Keep loving her and setting her before God in Jesus's name, for God our Father knows and gives all needed and perfectly.

God bless
pickles
 
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Rockrolla

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I'm truly grateful for all your prayers and wonderful kind words.
The issue is really private in our family and being abroad makes it difficult to understand Natalia's progress.

But what if she's unaffected by God's love? What if she chooses to maintain this lifestyle and ignore God? What do I do then?
I've been praying for years for her, I firmly believe in the power of prayer, but what else can my family do?

Again truly appreciate of all your prayers and support, will give you updates as I get them. Thanks guys.
 
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hattiebod

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Rockrolla said:
About 3 years ago my cousin confided some deep desires to me about wanting to be a boy. She said all the kids in her 7th/8th grade class were bisexual. She told me it became apparent when her crush (male) stopped liking her for a bisexual girl. That was the moment when she started giving this transgender thing a real thought.

I prayed with her about the issue, but when she started having crushes on the girls at church, I told her mom (my aunt). I showed my aunt her blog with rants about how she'd like to be a boy to kiss or be with another girl. Because of this, my cousin no longer confides in me. She scoffs when I or anyone else refers to her by her birth name, or as "daughter" or "she".

She has gone so far as to purchase vests that flatten your chest, and has cut all her lovely curly blonde hair off. I am distraught. Just don't know what to do. I told my pastor but he recommended a christian counselor outside our church to help keep the matter private. My aunt never sought the help of a counselor, and dismissed it as a phase. My aunt does not know how serious it is, my cousin cuts (self harms) and she stopped going to church. I know God is great, but my cousin is going to be 16 this June, and she doesn't even want a sweet 16! It's that serious. Besides prayer and fast, what can we do?
Please keep my cousin Natalia and our family in prayer. Advice is most graciously welcomed. Thank you!
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I shall pray for your family.
God can restore and provide healing for you all.
Do not dwell on the negative, declare Gods power & authority. Praise the victory at the cross, stand in faith that all will be well. Is there someone you can confide and stand with in this? To strenghtn you at this difficult time? Stay close in love and non judgement with your cousin. Your love and acceptance ( you do not condone, but you accept it is her choice and she can choose to do things differently at any time....you can be ready by her side in faith this will,happen)
She may take many years to turn....or days. God knows. You do not change her, God does. He wants her to know and love Him but it is free will. So do not be afraid, sweet 16 parties do not matter :) what remains? Love does. So love her, no matter what show the unconditional love of Jesus. It could be, you will be the last one in her life right now to do so.....but that's ok. Because God is in charge and we follow a God that casts out all fear. God Bless you, <><
 
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