another dumb mountain

Thanks to allthe people who are praying for me and my fiance. But I hav been over and over what to do. I cannot find any peace or resolution with the situation with the alcoholic fiance who's now in recovery but always goes bak to it. I cannot live with him I cannot just go on with my life. Part of me wants to but he will not leave me alone. He is dependent on me 95% of everything he can'teven function apart from me. Its robbing my joy and peace. Is this just a trick of satan

praying for you, turn it over to the LORD pray for your fiance and be honest with him. If this is the man the Lord has chosen for you then you are to be partners no one carries 95% of the load. Let the Lord show you how to move through this and whatever his answer is you must be willing to follow it.
[h=3]Isaiah 41:10[/h][SUP]10 [/SUP]So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand

Amen. Yes. I need to say that Scripture all day long. Thanx

Just wondering..How long have you two been together as a couple? Maybe you need to pause for a second and make sure this is part of God's will..and not your own. Im not saying this person is not for you. Maybe in time this man can mature,and grow spiritually. However, if there are so many red flags before you guys get married, it does not get better with marriage. As a married man, I can truly say that in marriage, you sacrifice for that other individual, because you love them.

If he cannot be in a right state of mind, due to alcoholism, he may not be able to treat/or love you the right way. When God "blesses" someone it is in a positive way..not negative. Just like in the case on money Proverbs 39 "The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it" Please pray and wait to hear Gods voice on this matter.

Together on and off for six years. Not drinking he's fine

Amos 3:3 says, "Can two walk together unless they be agreed." God doesn't want you to be joined to someone who is going to be stealing your Joy and who is not on the same path as you are.

My Dad was an alcoholic for 20 some years before his death and he dated a woman for 19 years. They didn't get married because of his alcoholism. It stole so much from what God could've done through that marriage, but the drink was more important to him. It seems like your fiancé is the same way. You need to ask yourself, where does he place you in regards to the alcohol. It doesn't seem like he would give it up for you. You need a man who would surrender all for you like Jesus did for the Church. Read Eph. 5:23-32 and see where he lines up.

Any sinner is fine, when they are not sinning; but once they begin to sin, it's not good. He can always hurt you or others physically when he is drunk. I don't want to see you in a harmful situation. Pray and trust God to direct you in what to do.

You have not married him, so you could exit this relationship with little hurt and baggage. Be careful. Let me know what you do and what God shows you to do in this situation.

I agree with what ptlman just posted. You are not at peace with your decision to marry him. God speaks to us in different ways..if there is a big decision and you are consulting God about it...sometimes the uneasiness in our spirit is God's way of saying no. You replied "not drinking hes fine" But your original post said "now in recovery but always goes back to it" I know you want him to change..but he has to want to change. I think delaying might be a good thought.

We live in an instant gratification world in which we rush into things. You said he depends on you 95% of the time. How would he fit as the provider for yalls family?? These are questions you must think about.Hope everything works out pray and fast about this matter.

Praying for you and all widom needed in Jesus Christ is Lord.
Praying also for your fiance, for all heaing and freedom from this addiction.

God bless
pickles