Married man-my brother in Christ, my friend, my co-worker...what a mess...

Let me say first off, that I am NOT attracted to this man in any way, shape or form. The two of us ARE NOT in a relationship (I forbid it). And I DO NOT have ANY intentions of being in a relationship with this man, period! But he sees something else.

The two of us are friends. I know his wife. We do not go to the same church, but he is a child of Chist. A fellow believer, and I have known him for some time now. Good guy.

What started off as just a friendship, in his eyes, he is wanting more than that. I did not pick up on these clues at first, and a long while back I had given him my number (something, I had forgotten about).

It's sort of complicated. But when we meet up at work, he showers me with compliments. Talks about calling me and coming over (he doesn't know where I live and I'm keeping it that way). Wants a message and doesn't want me to tell his wife. He is sooooo attracted to me and goes on and on about how beautiful I am and calls me 'Gorgeous' often.

I am repulsed by him. There is no way that I would EVER consider touching him or anything else concerning him. I am repulsed because he is a married man and my brother in Christ and it just sickens me that he would pursue another woman. I am sorry if his wife isn't "what he bargained for", but I WILL NOT be taking her place!

I want him gone out of my life!

Please pray for me that God will give me the wisdom in how to handle this situation. What to say and how to say it. I don't want to hurt the man and I don't want this to end badly in some way, like a retaliation because he does have my number. But I can no longer stand it!

I am changing my number and I could really use some advice. Please.

Thank you.

Ok, here it goes. Read your post and from the heart something is telling me to tell him to tell his wife that he has a thing for you. Or you will.

I will pray for you and God Bless you.

Amen and amen yac

Thanks, y'all. I have considered talking to her, but I don't have her number. Still, I don't feel that that is the direction God is leading me in how to deal with this.

I don't know what to do?

I don't feel you should talk to the wife. But why not talk to the man??


Tell him that as a Christian you can NOT see him again. Tell them it is wrong for him to be attracted to you when he has a wife. My thought is when you drop him soundly, he will go onto someone else. But at least you won't be responsible.

If you see him or come into contact with him again TELL HIM THE TRUTH!! Tell him what you said here. Say goodbye forever.

Deal with the man, and be done with him. That is the only way out of this. You can do it!

Thanks, Angela. Talking to him is going to be my next step, I just don't know how to go about it. The thing is, we work together. And this could turn into a really ugly retaliation thing, if not approached right.

What he is doing does fall under the sexual harrasment law, if need be speak to him and his boss, so as to protect your job and you.
You are in my prayers in Jesus's name for all wisdom and help in this difficult situation.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

Lord, there is no easy way to deal with this, and I could not presume to advise. I pray that you will feel Christ's Peace and Love, and find a way to deal with your problem in that spirit. Amen.

Thank you for praying, Pickles and Steve. I don't know what to do? I'm so sick of him. First, I'm going to change my number. Then I'm going to continue to pray and ask God for wisdom on how to deal with this. The man is infactuated with me, and so, I've just determined that this is a job only God can handle.

I really do appreciate all the prayers!

i am so sorry faithandlove this is a horrible situation to be in... i like to praise you for your Christian walk, even if he doesnt see it... you must be a strong believer, and i am sensing you wont give in to this sitution... i do feel you should talk to your employer ( if possible) see if there is anything that can be done to make him understand he is in the wrong here.... i will pray for you to walk what you need to walk, but also pray for him and his wife it seems like they need more prayer here to mend their marriage ( i am hoping that may bring him to understand to back off and get excited about his own marriage)
blessings sis

Thank you, brother. I am praying for him and his wife. I won't give in. I brought this issue to the attention of my brothers and sisters in Christ, in hopes that if maybe someone else had gone through this or something similar, that they could help steer me in the right direction.

I am really grateful for all of the prayers.