Please keep praying for a damaged marriage...

I have been separated from my husband for a few weeks now. He is verbally controlling and manipulative. While it is more peaceful in the home now, I am also very lonely without him and have begun to miss him despite his unacceptable behavior. I am heartbroken.

My pastor's Sunday sermons have repeated the message that I should not give up on my marriage and the family. But other counselors are telling me that I have to let go of it... that he won't change. I want to keep hoping but am afraid to. My son is only two and will never have a father...not really. Visiting isn't the same as parenting.

Please pray that Josh can find help and accept his problems. Perhaps then we might have a chance. I think the love is there between us, but he is just so lost.

Thank you Christian friends for praying. I know God will hear.

I am praying for your husband. My sister was also having problems with her husband as well. And don't let counselors tell you he won't change. Anything is possible with God. So Lord God, intervene in this husband. Change him Lord. And save him if he's not saved. In Jesus name Amen.

Will be contining Praying. "Beware then of your own Hearts, dear brothers, lest you find that they too, are evil and unbelieving and are leading you away from the living God." - Hebrews 3: 12

Dear father in heaven I pray right now for this marriage in the name of Jesus Christ.

This marriage may come back right now when we call upon Jesus things happen when we call his holy Name miracle start taking place
lord you have put this couple together no one can destroy this marriage, with the blood of Jesus I command all the negative words has been spoken in sister life and her husband life it may remove now .
in Jesus name

Dear sister and peace Jesus will bring back your marriage soon.
just remember don't loose focus this is devil attack to break marriages but god want to keep it together
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Amen god bless

Thank you so much, Kevin.. You're words are very comforting. Bless you. Gail

Thank you for your prayers, Kitty. Thank you and bless you..Gail

What a wonderful prayer, Billaji. I rely on the prayers of my Christian friends. Thank you so much. It is a great comfort. Gail

Praying for your family to be together, it's never easy, I hope your husband finds his pathway. I pray for your peace and patience for waiting for your husband. God bless you.

Lord thank you for Gail421. Bless her for seeking your help. May she and her husband be filled with your Love, so much so that it overflows from them onto each other. Deliver them from evil Lord. Let your light shine and show them the path to healing. Your will be done Father. May you be glorified. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen.

Gail421:

Hello, Im sorry to hear about your situation. I have a question..Have you thought about praying a spiritual warfare prayer for your husband? As the bible tells us, we wrestle not against flesh or blood, but against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world... A lot of times we see the physical, without addresses the unseen. There is a force at work in your husband that makes him behave this way. Dont get upset with your husband, bind up the spirit that is trying to work through him. I think this would be a good strategy for you if you have not considered it. I believe if you look at things through this perspective, it wont be so hard to deal with your husband. You can PM me with some techniques if you want.

Thank you, eddie.

We haven't been speaking much lately so I can't say that it's been hard to deal with him. But I am deeply hurt that he has betrayed me and his son by bailing out and leaving. We were together for 8 years before we got married. (didn't live together until we were married...) He always said he wanted to have a child with me. But I think that the pressure of the reality of being a husband and a father is too much for him. For some reason he finds the responsibility overwhelming. I don't know if he has met another woman. If he has, it is very recent and is probably not the love of his life or anything. But the thought of it makes me sick to my stomach. I truly think now that I've had a chance to step back and take a good look at him... I think he is sooo immature and very insecure and finds it impossible to do what is expected of him. I think he hates himself, but he's the type of person who acts out toward others when he feels inadequate. He treated me HORRIBLY.

I agree with you... there is a dark force working on him. I only wish he could understand that. I will definitely pray about that as you suggest. The hardest thing is knowing that I have to give him over to God and let His will take over. I really must let it go, even though I am experiencing enormous grief as a result. But there is a small voice that keeps saying..."Never give up... God can work miracles." It's so hard to do both of these things at once.

Again, Thank you for your Christian concern and kindness. Please keep us in your prayers. Gail

" I only wish he could understand that" Remember that those who are in spiritual bondage, or darkness, cannot comprehend 'spiritual' things. It is up to the spiritual discern to do three things. To first "bind up" that spirit, that is equivalent to tying up something. Secondly, we can command it to lose its control over the individual. And finally cast out the spirit at work. Make no mistake about it this situation is spiritual warfare. As long as you are in a good place with God, you have been given the authority over the enemy. "I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you" As long as you dont address the spirit at work it will continue to harass both of you. Realize he is under attack as well, with what you may label inner insecurities. I pray that this helps you out

Eddie...
What are your thoughts on a married couple, when one person is in a good place with God, but the other is not? ( And... We aren't really speaking now. )

Hugs Gail, you, your husband and family are in my daily prayers in Jesus's name.

God bless
pickles

Thank you pickles. I'm so grateful for your prayers.
Love in Christ,
Gail

I am praying for you and your husband to both find strength and wisdom through the lord. I pray for your marriage to be healed in the name of Jesus christ

Gail, I let go of my marriage as well, after 14 years of marriage I just could not take it any more..My wife was also verbaly abuseive as well as other things.. I had tried for several years to make things better on my own..I did not turn to God for help in the beginning, she refused to go to counselors with me, so i did that part alone just trying to fix the part of me that made her so very mad at me.

They told me it was not my fault but marriage is a 50/50 deal so half of it was I believe anyways. I am so glad you came to a Christian chat to ask for advice, I would keep trying to save your marriage..

God loves the both of you so very much and I know he wants you to be happy
I will continue to keep you and your husband in my prayers.

I understand the question. I am married and know that both individuals are not necessarily on the same spiritual level. There can be frustration and conflict in these types of marriages. However, the thing you must know is that you cannot save the person, but Jesus will. We as saved men and women can pray, fast, and intercede for many individuals..including our spouses. You have to know that you have power as a child of God...Do not let the situation dictate your strength in Christ. Sometimes the situation will speak to us and say "things will never change" However you have to speak back.

I suggest interceding and fasting for your marriage. If you know any prayer warriors/intercessors in your church, you could ask them to join you in a season of interceding for your husband. A change will happen by your involvement on a spiritual level..this will eventually reveal itself in the physical. Please refrain from negative speech concerning your husband during the intecessory period.

Thank you, Eddie. I have been praying more than ever. We have elders who stay after our church services to pray with us. I think I will take advantage of that this Sunday, as you suggest. I HAVE been expressing my anger and hurt but I am going to take your advice and stop doing that. I hadn't realized, until you mentioned it, that it's not very spiritual or faithful to say hateful things about him.
Hugs and thanks. Gail