Struggling with sin.

I have been in love with my best friend for about 4 years now. I'm not a silly teenager (well okay I'm a teenager, but I'm not silly in the least). The bad thing about it is that she's a girl. And I'm a girl. I've been trying to escape this sin. It has had an effect on my grades, my relationships with everyone else, my relationship with God, my physical health, my performance in dance, and everything else. I need to be saved. I can't stop thinking about herrrrrrrrrr. Please pray for me =(

you poor girl, may Jesus christ hold and keep you and drive that spirit of lust back into the pit.

Just as Joseph ran from sin when accused of being with a King's wife, you should put some distance
between you and your friend. By staying around her, you are just putting temptation in front of you.
As long as that temptation is there, you will see it and not focus on what God says or wants you to do.
This would be the same situation if a Christian was always thinking about dating a non-Christian. Time
away will help your feelings to reduce but staying will only freeze your ability to listen to God and do
anything for Him. Also, God isn't happy about how you feel nor would He approve of you acting on those
emotions.
Putting some distance between you two will help stop the temptation to cross a line.

On a quick note the fact that you're concerned about it is a good thing, the Holy Spirit is working in your heart and is convicting you of sin.
James 4:6-10
But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, "God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble."
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom.
Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.

Big emphasis on draw near to God, as he will in turn draw near to you. Humble yourself in his presence, so he can lift you up and cover you with his grace.

Scriptures to repeat as often as need. I will also pray for you.
Ps. 32:5 "I axknowledged my sin unto Thee, and my transgressions unto the Lord; and Thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin."

Ps. 139:23-24 "Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts; And see if there by any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way evelasting."

Isa. 30:15b "... In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength:..."

Heather, take a deep breath, relax. We all know what the bible has to say concerning same sex relationships, civil unions or unnatural affections. The experiences in your life, whatever they may have been, have led you to feel this strong attraction.

There is great value in strong friendships. The story of David in 2Samuel 1:26

“…Your love to me was more wonderful than the love of women…

The relationship between David and Jonathon, (the son of King Saul), was a very special one, a very uncommon bond existed between these two young men. Friendships that are close enough to generate genuine love, are usually born from shared experiences, similar interests and great trust. We should all hope for such a friendship.

Simply being tempted with thoughts of experimentation, curiosity and attraction, does not necessarily represent a severe problem, but there are some questions that only you can answer. Not about these present desires, but about your experiences in the past, such as, actual same- sex experiences, actual experimentation, or seemingly uncontrollable desires to initiate a same-sex physical relationship in the past.

There are always reasons for our thoughts and behaviors, even when we have difficulty identifying what those reasons are. From your CC profile, I’ve gathered that you are a Christian, but that you are still learning what that means. I’ve also gathered from your other posts that your relationship with your father was not the best, and you have trouble connecting with your emotions.

You have every reason to want to reach out to someone close to you. No one can blame you for wanting to feel love or to want to be ‘in love’. But, so often, for unexplainable reasons, due to experiences, our wiring can get crossed a little, and as we develop a sense of who we are, we sometimes become who we aren’t. When this happens, we run the risk of forming unhealthy relationships because we perceive relationships in an unhealthy way.

If you haven’t accepted Jesus as Lord, by praying and asking him to come into your heart and life, and to fill you with the Holy Spirit, that would be a good start toward having a better relationship with God. If you don’t attend a loving, bible teaching church, where you feel welcomed, that’s also very important for support, guidance and maturing spiritually.

It is good to put distance between ourselves and anything or anyone who may inadvertently interfere with our relationship with God. Sometimes we have to make hard choices in order to protect that relationship. Many of us, perhaps some on this very chat site, deny ourselves from participating in certain activities and pleasures which may seem totally acceptable to the rest of the world. This is because we know we have an adversary, the enemy of our souls, whose only purpose in this world is to steal, kill and destroy.

I urge you not to limit your support to those within this chat site. Reach out to others whom God has placed in your life. You are my sister in Christ, and I will pray for your continued growth in the Lord, and for God to give you grace to withstand temptations and thoughts which can lead to self destructive lifestyles.

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper

you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ...


Todd / Songster

Jesus said"get thee behind me Satan" you have to physicaly turn your back on anything that is not of God. The prophets in the Bible would lay on there sides for months eating beans and then when the people would ask what there up to they explain it was a picture of what God was going to do, it was a Word of God seen and not heard. God wants you to speak with your actions if not for others to hear but for yourself to hear.

I used to have a best friend and I became a christian God told me I heard His voice, He speaks the best english God said " if you drink any more beer you will die", I drank other liquer but no beer I never told anyone about this except that I will have no more beer and that was enouph for our friendship for us to go our oun ways. Years later I came to the conclusion on my oun alcohol has no benefit for me and i'll never have alcohol ever again.

Seducing spirits are strong you need to find cover, I hope you have a good church or Godly pastor and elders and Godly woman if you don't you will be consumed. Finding help online is not good, you need people to lay hands on you and for you and pray with you. When you aren't right with God, you feel convicted, despite this feeling keep comming to Him and to Godly people (I know from experiance) God is happy you seek Him and do the right thing, It may feel like He doesn't, but He does, think of it like burning the bad stuff off the Devil doesn't want that.

I will pray that Jesus will fill that place in your heart and mind with so much grace and love that you will dance with Joy!.
Hugs and God bless, pickles