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aprilrenee1

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I have a friend named d. He lives under the 5th street bridge in Grand Rapids MI. D was in the navy, used to hold a job, has a child. He owes 40,000 dollars in child support and recently was thrown in jail.

He drinks to wallow his sorrows because he doesnt have the money nor job to pay for this. Herr daughter is 25 and isnt interested in the child support.

Does anyone know if this can be nulled.

I mean...he even is responsible for paying the amount owed in jail (this can also be charged as a mistemeanor). D is my friend....Ive known him on and off for two 1/2 years. He is involved with a prayer community...but his worries and regrets eat away at him.

Regardless of what you think of this man...I know...his heart. Dont judge ok? like I said, he is friend to many and we just want to help.

Let me know if you have any ideas, pray for him too. and Im putting this thread in the pq section. night
 
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As I understand if the child is 25yrs old now and both mom and child do not want the support then it can be nullified.
If the state or federal goverment payed this support because he did not then he will have to pay all unless he requests a hearing to see if it can be reduces or forgiven. This would probably require a lawyer
He and his child are in my prayers.
God bless , pickles
 
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carpetmanswife

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yeah its the state thats after him because they paid for the childs needs growing up so dunno if hes gonna get off of this one , he needs a lawyer to at least get some kinda payment thing set up .
 
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aprilrenee1

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He cannot get a payment plan set up. He has no job, although he did serve in the war, he literally lives in the streets. Rehab, any good rehabe costs money he doesnt have so....really what justice is this?
 
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Aplirenee, I know this may be hard, but you need to help your friend to stop seeing himself as a victem. This is not to judge as we all have faced great difficulty in our lives. But as long as he sees himself as a victem or faillier he cannot move forward. Help him to understand that it all begins with baby steps. Small choices towards a life again. Many services will not help him untill he does this. If he wants to be free of this he has to fight for himself first.
Im not trying to judge him but to show you, so that you can help him. I do understand the dark hole that he is in, that is why I say this. because he can find the joy in his life again. I have also learned that it is those with the tenderest hearts that have the hardest times.
He is in my prayers and heart along with you.
God bless, pickles
 
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aprilrenee1

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he is in jail right now.

he has tried to get his life turned around.

this isnt about "helping" and I really believe if 40000 was nulled...I mean even if he got a mcds job...you know he wouldnt be able to pay even a minimun amount.

He knows, he has guilt, he didnt ask us to do this....we want to do this.

this is all i got, I really think...sometimes we need to help ourselves, but also we need to help others get their life back.
 
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I understand. When my family was having a hard time the medical bills we had were overwhaelming. Some one we do not know who, paid off the huge bill. It was in the thousands. It helped us have a better start when we got on our feet. God bless the person that did this.
He could look into legal aid. I know the waiting lists are long but it could be his best chance.
All continues to be in my prayers.
God bless, pickles
 
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aprilrenee1

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thanks, sorry about sounding angry, its like....ya. just personal to me
 
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I understand, I kinda had a hard time myself. My dad abandoned us and barely supported us kids when I was young. We suffered alot because of it. But the one thing Jesus has taught me is to see the person, and to love them as he loves them.
I am still praying for your friend .
God bless, pickles
 
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aprilrenee1

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I understand that would suck. and i understand how this person...you might see your dad in that? I dont know the specifics...I do know she and the dad have a relationship. so....Im sorry if there was personal feelings or offences
 
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Never was any bad feelings. I was amazed at how much Jesus can heal and teach his love. Im glad she and her dad have a relationship now. That is a great thing.
Still praying for him.
God bless, pickles
 
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