I am being stalked by a co-worker. He works for the company, just at another site. Yesterday and today, I caught him snooping around my site and he's not supposed to be there without having been told or asked to go there, which neither have occured. I would like to say something to my boss about it, because his actions are threating. But the thing is she likes this person and I don't know how serious she would take it? Should I say something to her or just pray and leave it in God's hands? Please help.
If you can say something to us, you can say something to your boss. Especially when you feel this guys actions are threatening. Record everything. Date/time you spoke with your supervisor, etc... Keep this in a journal so that you have a complete record of your attempts to get this issue resolved. Be direct.
Report your concern, ask what she plans to do about it, and ask her for a time frame wherein she's going to act. Follow-up. Don't presume she's taken care of it. If she gives you two days, as an example, on that second day meet with her and ask what she's done. Record that in your journal.
If she's not acted, go to whoever is over her head, her superior, until you have satisfaction. Many a woman and man has prayed while they're in the midst of being harmed by someone.
God helps those who help themselves.
Someone who's stalking you at work, for whatever personal reason they may have, and I understand how you wouldn't want to share that here, is not an asset to the company. They are in fact a liability. Because if they act inappropriately now, they're liable to do anything. And if they do, that means there's a chance of a lawsuit. Against the company for not acting after having his behavior reported, which is why you keep the journal, and for any harm he does to an employee.
Someone who stalks you and trespasses where they know they're not suppose to be without authorization is showing you they have no boundaries.
Don't ignore that.
Don't just pray about it.
Act, to save yourself. They're dangerous, you said.
Then you need to get yourself out of danger. Because you don't know if they're doing this now as a first time offender or if they've done this before and no one has ever stopped them before this. Those kind of things are what can be found out in the lawsuit after he acts and does harm to you. Or, God forbid, during the police investigation after you're dead at his hands.
Never take someone's trespass against you lightly.
They're letting you know that personal respect and privacy means nothing to their desire to violate you. And as a point of note, if you never get satisfaction from either your immediate supervisor or their superior, go to the police! Yep, that's right. And file a TRO. Temporary Restraining Order, against this individual. Or even an order of protection.
Further, as you're journaling, make sure you document everything he does in violation of your privacy as well. I mean every little thing. If he emails you, copy it and send it to a private file you have somewhere, or bring a flash drive and put it all in a file at work and then copy it to that flash drive daily, if things happen daily, and take it with you. Because this is the thing about work computers and evidence against a violator. Liability.
Those computers are owned by the company you work for. Do not think for a minute they are not beyond scrubbing clean any evidence of his trespass that may be recorded there, emails, etc... , if something happens. Some major companies think, no evidence, no case! Keep your own record of everything. No matter what.
And don't for a minute buy the lie that you can't copy any thing he sends to you that is threatening in nature or beyond the scope of work related. You can and you have every right to document the evidence of his trespass. A company that tells you that you can't is a company forewarning you that you cant even trust them to keep you safe or have your best interests at heart.
And finally, carry protection. Pepper spray or mace on your keys is a great thing. There's even a ring you can buy that will hurt an attacker if you strike them in the right spot. Be prepared. Be safe. God gave you one life. Cherish it above all else and don't let a stalker take a moments peace or your life from you.
Also, don't drive home the same way every night or day that you leave work. Before you get in your car check the back seat before you unlock the door. Check your tires to make sure the tire stem caps are in place. A stalker who wants to compromise you on the ride home can break off a piece of toothpick or some other stick like thing, and stick it in the stem of your tire so that it slowly goes flat. Make sure the stem caps are secure because something compromising the valve in the stem will stop the cap from fully closing. If you notice your stem cap is off alignment or loose, check it.
If you see something against the valve in the stem, don't remove it. CALL POLICE RIGHT THERE!
There could be prints on the stem from when the vandal held it to place the stick against the valve. Or even DNA. And don't buy that there's no fingerprint kits in that cop car.
Most cop cars carry kits in the trunk. But if you get a cop that says they don't have fingerprint kits, tell him to call the detective bureau and get someone out to your car now. If he/she refuses, call 911 again and ask for a police supervisor at your location and dispatch of an officer from the detective branch.
The cops here are like that. They just don't care. This is your life you're talking about. YOU CARE! And you take to task the cop that tells you he doesn't when he says there's nothing he can do about gathering evidence in a case where someone has compromised your car.
Also, make sure your lights are all in tact on your car. And never be super low on fuel. If you're compromised on the road a stalker can make you an easy target.
(HUG) God's protection surround you and yours.
Here's some helpful links that may assist.
Pepper Spray State Laws (Now listen, if the state you're in does not permit carrying of pepper spray, don't worry about it. Carry anyway. It is better to pay the fine for breaking that law than having your family pay the hospital or funeral bill because the state insisted you could not carry a personal defense weapon.)
Mace Spray Laws Some people build an immunity to pepper spray.
They don't usually when it comes to mace.
Five Pieces of Odd Self Defense Jewelry to Keep You Safe
I am now going to pray and seek the face of God. After I hear a clear messege from Him, then I will go from there. But you all are both right, and I am grateful for the advise. God bless.