Yes you were judging me instead of trying to understand where I am at. No point backtracking. Thank you for your response but I don't feel you are understanding me very well.
I am not purposely dwelling on this man. He just doesn't want to leave my mind and heart. I have tried to forget about him numerous times and he will just keep popping back up in my mind. I don't expect you to understand but it is like he is always with me even though he is not. Maybe he is thinking about me and maybe that is why he keeps popping up. I don't really know.
As for my marriage like I said I am staying. I'm not separating for a while after 22 years of marriage. I'm not leaving my home either or my grandbaby and I have my small business to take care of. With the marriage it is either make it or break it and like I have already said if he cheats, beats or abandons me then that is it. It hasn't come to that yet.
Heal my emotions? I don't understand what you mean? I am a little depressed because I don't like my current circumstances but I still function. I'm not on any pills and I am certainly not having a nervous breakdown nor am I a basket case. I'm a lot stronger than that.
I only asked for help concerning why that man is still in my mind and heart. I had to give some background information to try to make the whole situation somewhat clearer but it is very complex and may be hard for some people to understand.
I will continue to stay in my marriage and pray for the man in question and continue to ask God to resolve this as I have been doing. Some things cannot be fixed in one day so time will tell what the end result will be.
Thank you for any prayers on my behalf.
I attempted a very long message that got lost in cyberspace a few hrs ago. I missed your message #8 before Not knowing that you were married, faults with your hubby is that he works too much and gets cranky. My lost message did contain a long testimony of what I perceive to have been a spiritual war.
The best way in a few short words that I can describe the work of the enemy that he did to me and a ex girlfriend. We feel,think and do thinks that are blown way out of our normal way of being.
Examples! Met this girl online. I passed on her asking me out the first time around because of her love for Country dancing. I felt that she may have been around so many drunken men that she may be harsh.(what a understatement)
Fiver years later. She contacts me online again. looking good in low cut hip huger jeans.(Lust attraction?) She mentions how she has always found me very handsome. (More temptation) She got me now. We have a poor conversation on the phone. she pushes to meet anyway. She is 1/2 hr late.
This is where my decisions get strange. I feel this strong attraction to her. Best blind date that I ever could have imagined.
We were at a 24hr fitness gym. Guess I was pumped. I was full stacking all of the machines with ease. lol
She looked so innocent with our goodby hug. I left with very strong feelings thinking that I could marry this girl.
( I am afraid of marriage due to the divorce stats)
She turned out having dreams that I was going out with my ex wife. Claiming they were from God. lots and lots of mean nasty allegations made about me and my ex. and anybody that I had known that I mentioned were good people.Which was everyone before her. .
Just about every time out. Strangers would approach us saying how happy we looked together. I truly felt we had chemistry.
Every time that I would get home. she would send me emails with more lies and accusations.
To the point! With all of this ugliness. I was drawn to her. I put in more effort with her then anyone else. It was like an illness. My next girlfriend who came to soon. made a comment that she sensed a dark spiritual pulling me to this mean ex. She was right. Very scary for a long time.
In your case you are attracted to a internet guy, that you had known for a short time. maybe never even met.You mention of him not being honest with you, and probably would not even talk with you. That does not sound healthy. It could be that he cut if off because you are married. He had convictions? Yet! Your strong feelings persist even after four years. These strong feelings would not be from God