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Well, your pastor might look at this question and say, "NOT MUCH!" But, all kidding aside, it's best to look at the first date as not really a "date" at all, at least not in the traditional sense. When we say "date," it usually conjures images of the guy going to the woman's house to pick her...

I assume you're not being paid, so your title is technically "volunteer." Again, if it's not part of your profession, you are technically a volunteer. Do you have statistics on the number of retirees, stay-at-home moms, and people on public assistance? A word of advice: Most guys, no matter...

About six years ago, two people I loved dearly betrayed my trust and set out to ruin my life. It was intentional and on purpose. Even after six years, neither has said they are sorry. I tried to forgive right away, but Satan saw my weakness of anger and exploited it. I was utterly alone with...

In today's world, we call the number of people we've had sex with in the past our "body count." Some Christian YouTubers are currently discussing the body count they can accept from someone they are about to marry. Hookup apps make it easy to rack up a pretty high "'body count." But many...

I took my 11-year-old son to breakfast this past Saturday at our favorite local restaurant. The young waitress who took our order wore a small but stunning silver cross that sparkled beautifully. I said, "That's a beautiful cross you are wearing. What's the story behind it?" "Oh, thanks. I...

I agree one hundred percent. But it's not really about being old-fashioned. Its about being God-honoring. Kudos! I'm glad you are not one of those women who would lead a guy on for the purpose of getting only what you want from him. Okay, good. After he kisses you for the first time, make it...

Excellent point. That's why I feel the pace needs to be much slower in Christian dating than what's happening in the secular world, where most women will dump the man if he doesn't initiate sex by the third date. Still, he needs to make his romantic intentions known early so she doesn't relegate...

I believe it does. Sure, a man who is confident with women and can talk to them with ease will get more dates than a man who is unsure of himself or comes across as needy and depressed. But even the guy women find unattractive will eventually land a first date. I'm trying to make a point here...

I understand what you're saying, but you seem to be twisting my words a bit. Let me clarify with an illustration. Suppose you have two investment companies: Company X and Company Y. Both companies take in client money for long-term investment. Both promise to be good stewards of the money...

So, be sure to make that clear before going further so there are no misunderstandings. :) The principles of dating and romance are for those 18 to 108. :) And most people have received bad information over the years, especially from well-meaning church leaders. :) In some respects, it is...

Like I said in my prev reply to you, I will address this in my next post. There is only one opener you really need, and I will explain how it works then. You bring up a great point. I think we need to define the word "date." To the world, it is just a conduit for a man to try and have a...

Sure. I'll address that in my next post. Silly "pickup lines" may not be appropriate anyway for some church settings, and I admit that. There is one universal conversation opener that would truly honor God in all situations, and I'll reveal that in my next post. I would love to expand on that...

Before I respond to any replies on this thread, I want to thank the moderators for allowing me to post such a controversial topic. My heart is broken over those who have given up on finding a spouse. Marriage is truly a gift from God, but before that happens, there must be a connection between a...

I'm so saddened by what I'm reading on this thread. The hope of finding someone to share the rest of your life with is crushed by the ineptitude, pride, and closed-mindedness of our church leaders, who are unwilling to lend a hand in the cause. They tell us to be patient, and God will send...

Many men make the mistake of crossing the grey area between being kind and simply being a doormat for the woman. I used to do that years ago when I was younger. Eventually, I figured out how to be empowered to walk away from any non-marital relationship before I got to that point. The key is...

Go back and re-read the first part of my post. I preface it by addressing your concern.

If you've read my last post, you will know that I am a big proponent of non-sexual flirting as a first step to getting a date with someone who interests you. Flirting can be a great way to start a conversation and show that person you are not only safe to be around, but you also can be...

Excellent point. Since you and David are completely different people, you would use a different approach than him. What troubles me is your use of the negative term "come-on line." But you're not alone. Many men, especially Christ followers, view flirting with a woman as a cumbersome exercise...

After reading all the responses, I am glad everyone is open-minded. But we could be overthinking this a bit. After all, flirting is a spontaneous art form that you must develop over time. There are really no rules as long as you stay within God's boundaries.:)

Have you ever sat in a restaurant and noticed a little kid staring at you from their mom and dad's table in the distance? Sometimes, they'll smile at you or play peek-a-boo by hiding their face and suddenly look back to see if you notice them. Simply put, they're flirting with you. They're not...