The people in chat could quit being so cliqueish and make more of an effort to welcome newcomers. I rarely go to chat because when i try to join the conversation i am ignored. What if God treated us that way?? How can a ministry grow if people are too stuck up and snobbish to reach out to a newcomer and make him feel welcome? What if someone is just lonly and wants some fellowship but he is turned away.... somethin to think about
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I agree with dude
it is almost impossible to join convos on the chat (and I have been on here a looong time), so I just post in the forums
I don't think people contumaciously ignore people though, messages just get lost when so many post and everyone is "looking for" the reply to the convo they are focusing on
it is almost impossible to join convos on the chat (and I have been on here a looong time), so I just post in the forums
I don't think people contumaciously ignore people though, messages just get lost when so many post and everyone is "looking for" the reply to the convo they are focusing on
I've noticed that going into an empty room sometimes pulls other people in. The main rooms are always overcrowded when I'm there and you know, people are doing their own thing. If you want to meet new people, perhaps you can do what I do and wait for someone to come along to chat with.
If not, remember, don't worry, be happy! If God is willing, somebody (or people!) will come along. Cheer up!
If not, remember, don't worry, be happy! If God is willing, somebody (or people!) will come along. Cheer up!
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Oh come on ,If you used the chat a lot you would already know that most of the time there are great people in there that ALWAYS say hello to new people as the server message comes up ,where does this the lounge is terrible statement come from ? The lounge is full of most of the best christians i know,Friendly ,loving,caring people who love Christ and God with all their hearts and as for the Cliques well im in there every day and i try to include everyone and anyone in any conversation so before judging come visit us again.......
Godbless and PEACE OUT
Godbless and PEACE OUT
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I have also noticed this in my short time on CC. Jesus said:
Matthew 5:47
And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
Romans 2:11
For there is no respect of persons with God.
We should acknowledge one another as equals as God does so. There are times where people get caught up in chat, pms, ect. but I have also witnessed people blatently ignoring others.
Matthew 5:47
And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
Romans 2:11
For there is no respect of persons with God.
We should acknowledge one another as equals as God does so. There are times where people get caught up in chat, pms, ect. but I have also witnessed people blatently ignoring others.
The lounge is rediculously cliqueish. Even on the mic only certain individuals are included in the conversation. New people come in and no body bothers to say hello. On more than one occasion, a lady was on the mic asking for prayer requests. I submitted mine and was ignored. This is unacceptable. No wonder people don't like christians because they see how we treat each other. What if God trrared US that way?? What if God ignored us and only included certain individuals.. I'm not trying to be preachy or judgemental.. just calling it like I see it.
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If someone is NEW to chatting the site could be confusing....the lounge is the FIRST room that you join. Which is the FIRST impression of the site.
They may not notice the rooms tab up top at first. Maybe when someone joins instead of going right into the lounge they go to a page where they can choose which room they would like to join.
I Agree Dude653..... I have seen this very same complaint said by many everyday and no change. They also want to dictate the conversations.... if someone mentions Jesus they tell them to go to the bible study room because it is the lounge. WOW.... I guess if someone wanted to know how to receive Jesus they would not drop their conversation to help.
They may not notice the rooms tab up top at first. Maybe when someone joins instead of going right into the lounge they go to a page where they can choose which room they would like to join.
I Agree Dude653..... I have seen this very same complaint said by many everyday and no change. They also want to dictate the conversations.... if someone mentions Jesus they tell them to go to the bible study room because it is the lounge. WOW.... I guess if someone wanted to know how to receive Jesus they would not drop their conversation to help.
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I used to get so annoyed by people complaining that with in the first 5 seconds of them being in chat no one said hi to them. However I have realized that life is not all about them and if they want to cry about it that is up to them. I have chatted at this site off and on for 11-12 years and I personally try to welcome people in regularly, but you have to keep in my that it is not easy. Those of you who are complaining come in and do nothing but greet people. Sometimes it is so busy that its all you can do to keep up. Then you will have people thinking oh so and so is not paying me any attention I am trying to fellowship and all they are doing is greeting people I am not worth enough to have their attention? There are always more then one side to every situation. Lets concentrate on what is coming out of our mouths shall we? How about instead of complaining and grumbling about us and tearing us down because we are not who you wants us to be you lift one another up? Also even after 11-12 years there are times I get ignored instead of having a pity party I realize hey why dont I leave and go read my bible spend some time with my father or how about I keep throwing my two cents out there until I get into the convo seeing as it was started before I got there and life doesnt revolve around me. Life is not perfect and no one should be expecting chat to be
Grace and peace to all.... I see no one here having a pity party merely speaking on an observation. I can only speak of my personal experience and what I have witnessed here. I have been in the room for several days. I have watched people come in and TRY to fellowship, TRY to engage or join in a conversation or ask questions only to be ignored and people continue to talk around them. It's not about ATTENTION it is about fellowship. I believe this is why some just resort to pming without asking.
People sought out a CHRISTIAN chat for a reason. We never know how a person is feeling when they click on that chat now button. A smile or a kind word can turn someones day around, you never know what is on their mind.
No one is trying to tear anyone down....what I see here is a suggestion on being more gracious to newcomers. Since it's more than one newcomer saying that they feel out of place or unwelcomed or the room seems clique(ish) why not extend and olive branch to them? I know the room is so busy and all, surely that isn't to much to ask.
I mean we are to lift up one another up right? If more than one newbie is saying it could there possibly be a ring of truth to it somewhere?
No life does not revolve around any of us. We ALL should watch what comes out of our mouths. Surely we all have opinions and suggestions newcomers or not. I guess it's all in how it is voiced.
Hebrews 13:2
Forget not to show love unto strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
Colossians 4:6
Let the words you speak always be full of grace. Season them with salt. Then you will know how to answer everyone.
2 Timothy @:24-25
And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth.....
As I've said maybe instead of automatically popping in the lounge there could be a list for the user to choose which room they would like to join.
People sought out a CHRISTIAN chat for a reason. We never know how a person is feeling when they click on that chat now button. A smile or a kind word can turn someones day around, you never know what is on their mind.
No one is trying to tear anyone down....what I see here is a suggestion on being more gracious to newcomers. Since it's more than one newcomer saying that they feel out of place or unwelcomed or the room seems clique(ish) why not extend and olive branch to them? I know the room is so busy and all, surely that isn't to much to ask.
I mean we are to lift up one another up right? If more than one newbie is saying it could there possibly be a ring of truth to it somewhere?
No life does not revolve around any of us. We ALL should watch what comes out of our mouths. Surely we all have opinions and suggestions newcomers or not. I guess it's all in how it is voiced.
Hebrews 13:2
Forget not to show love unto strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
Colossians 4:6
Let the words you speak always be full of grace. Season them with salt. Then you will know how to answer everyone.
2 Timothy @:24-25
And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth.....
As I've said maybe instead of automatically popping in the lounge there could be a list for the user to choose which room they would like to join.
The lounge IS VERY CLIQUEISH.. this is a problem. I know i gripe a lot about it, but i will continue to gripe until something changes. A new comer coming into the lounge would not even be able to tell that it is a ''Christian'' chat room. My pastor once taught a lesson talking about,,''Everybody aint Lieing''.. That means if many people are calling something out.. then it is probably true. Numerous people have agreeed with me on this issue. Will social cliques help to expand the Kingdom of God?
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I have so so so many comments I could make, however I realize that you are never ever going to be able to make everyone happy. I have tried personally not to offend new comers and to stay on top of greeting them and at the same time not offend those who are a bit more established by ignoring them to just greet there is no happy meeting place. I kind of felt like there was a bit of attitude towards some comments I made so I wanted to point out quick that I was not trying to come off rude just show the other side of the issue. Like I said I have chatted here for years and i either offend newbies or established chatters. I can not explain the feeling of frustration I get over this topic and I do not mean in the sense of all you saying you dont get greeted are wrong and all of us established chatters are right. I dont mean that at all. I just think when we as people in general do not get instant gratification of what we think should happen we go off on a nut I am guilty of it myself. For example I use to go crazy when people played music on mic in fact i let myself get that way from time to time, but God has been dealing with me on thinking things should be how I think they are I have been learning that I have to glorify him even when things do not go my way. God works in us through everything some folks think its a chat site stop making such a big deal but that is just it God can work on our attitudes even in a chat site. Anyway I have the gift of gab and have gone on long enough basically what I came back to say was I wasnt siding one way or another just giving insite from the otherside. God Bless all!
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Hi dude, 
Some people do the best they can to say hello, there are many things to consider. Not everyone is viewing the screen, main chat can be busy, there are people in pms etc.. and not everyone's attention span is the same so there is a lot of people going from room to room and not everyone is carefully reading who is coming in when caught up in a converstion. Yes, I agree that it is best to say hello and greet new people and to include them, but to keep emphasizing CLIQUES CLIQUES CLIQUES. That's really not helping any...everyone really can't help who they know better, and are use to. Not everyone is the same, so not everyone is going to say hello at first instance. It's just like in person. A stranger saying hi, and you say hi. Sometimes that's all you can say because you don't really know the person. Yes, some people may be ignoring other's on person, but there is not way to break up a group of people who know eachother well. Seriously, this is an internet site and there are not referees who blow whistles breaking up conversations just because someone feels they are being ignored. I don't mean that to be rude at all, but that is just reality. Yes, Jesus wants us to be friendly etc, but you also need to realize this is a chat site, and things don't always work the same online as they would in person. Everybody is not the same. I am sorry you felt ignored and I hope you find yourself welcomed here. God Bless you!
Some people do the best they can to say hello, there are many things to consider. Not everyone is viewing the screen, main chat can be busy, there are people in pms etc.. and not everyone's attention span is the same so there is a lot of people going from room to room and not everyone is carefully reading who is coming in when caught up in a converstion. Yes, I agree that it is best to say hello and greet new people and to include them, but to keep emphasizing CLIQUES CLIQUES CLIQUES. That's really not helping any...everyone really can't help who they know better, and are use to. Not everyone is the same, so not everyone is going to say hello at first instance. It's just like in person. A stranger saying hi, and you say hi. Sometimes that's all you can say because you don't really know the person. Yes, some people may be ignoring other's on person, but there is not way to break up a group of people who know eachother well. Seriously, this is an internet site and there are not referees who blow whistles breaking up conversations just because someone feels they are being ignored. I don't mean that to be rude at all, but that is just reality. Yes, Jesus wants us to be friendly etc, but you also need to realize this is a chat site, and things don't always work the same online as they would in person. Everybody is not the same. I am sorry you felt ignored and I hope you find yourself welcomed here. God Bless you!