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Yehonadav

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I'm new here and the past two days I've been in chat, I almost had to beg to even be acknowledged. Now I understand I'm new and no one really knows me but come on, how do you expect the unsaved to want to come to Jesus if when new folks come in that aren't part of the 'click' are ignored??? Today I didn't get a 'hello' at all, even after trying to spark conversation.

I understand that christians are supposed to be tight knit group, but that doesn't mean we exclude all outsiders. My suggestion is that we work a little more on being friendly and welcoming, even to those we don't know. Jesus doesn't ignore anyone and neither should we.

Please don't take this as me beating up on folks, because that's not my intention at all, but if we don't show the love of Christ then why are we here? I'm not perfect at this either, hence why I said 'we'. Let us purpose to make every user welcome and manifest His love so that we may win some to the Lord :)
 
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NMsmile

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Yehonadav I've always found chat rooms to be difficult. I remind myself it's like walking up to a group of people already engaged in conversation. (sometimes they are so engrossed in their own conversation they or oblivious to "new" people. My suggestion is that you go to one of the chat rooms that has only a few participants. Good luck... don't give up!
 
Dude653

Dude653

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Mar 19, 2011
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I had that problem when I first came here..people really should make more of an effort to welcome newcomers
 
damombomb

damombomb

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I agree! Especially when someone asks for prayer and you see 57 visits and 1 post,people may be desperate.
It is encuraging to know someone is praying for you.Some people are disabled,no car,mabe no family ect.
Isnt that what it is all about?
your friend in JESUS
 
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Ugly

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I started on here months ago and i had the same problem, and people i knew who started before me had the same complaints. I've heard that is part of this sites reputation. Nothing ever changes, though. And often times people who complain are criticized, or so has been my experience as well. That's the main reason i quit complaining, i got tired of arguing with the clique members telling me its my fault somehow.
Trust me, its not just a 'new persons' issue. I still get ignored. Actually the forums have a clique as well, i tend to not respond as much when i see this group because they rarely acknowledge my responses and take over many threads with their personal jokes and conversations. Nothing changes.
 
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Mrdll

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Yehonadav said:
I'm new here and the past two days I've been in chat, I almost had to beg to even be acknowledged. Now I understand I'm new and no one really knows me but come on, how do you expect the unsaved to want to come to Jesus if when new folks come in that aren't part of the 'click' are ignored??? Today I didn't get a 'hello' at all, even after trying to spark conversation.

I understand that christians are supposed to be tight knit group, but that doesn't mean we exclude all outsiders. My suggestion is that we work a little more on being friendly and welcoming, even to those we don't know. Jesus doesn't ignore anyone and neither should we.

Please don't take this as me beating up on folks, because that's not my intention at all, but if we don't show the love of Christ then why are we here? I'm not perfect at this either, hence why I said 'we'. Let us purpose to make every user welcome and manifest His love so that we may win some to the Lord :)
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Hey brother, I hope I have not ignored you. I don't recall seeing you around, but that could be for several reason. I do try to welcome people into the rooms, but sometimes I miss a few. It's hard, yet not all that hard to make friends here. I've actually made a few myself.
As for clicks or tight nit groups, any time you come into a room I am in it and there are a few of there, it is very possible they are close friends with me. Please, please, please feel free to stay and chat with us. If we do not acknowledge you fast enough, wake us up:)
Looking forward to seeing you around.
God Bless:)
 
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violakat

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I'm quite often in the same room with Mrdll, and we always enjoy having new people in there.
That goes for you too, Mr. Ugly.
 
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See_KING_Truth

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Yehonadav said:
I'm new here and the past two days I've been in chat, I almost had to beg to even be acknowledged. Now I understand I'm new and no one really knows me but come on, how do you expect the unsaved to want to come to Jesus if when new folks come in that aren't part of the 'click' are ignored??? Today I didn't get a 'hello' at all, even after trying to spark conversation.

I understand that christians are supposed to be tight knit group, but that doesn't mean we exclude all outsiders. My suggestion is that we work a little more on being friendly and welcoming, even to those we don't know. Jesus doesn't ignore anyone and neither should we.

Please don't take this as me beating up on folks, because that's not my intention at all, but if we don't show the love of Christ then why are we here? I'm not perfect at this either, hence why I said 'we'. Let us purpose to make every user welcome and manifest His love so that we may win some to the Lord :)
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Unfortunately, this is very true. I have experienced the same things that you are going through. Still do at times... It is disgusting to me how people can be so ignorant to others and call themselves Christians at the same time.

Matthew 5:47
And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?

If we only say "hi" or acknowledge the people we know, what more are we doing than unbelievers or anybody else?

I know how the cold sting of rejection feels and as christians we will often receive this from the world, but we should not experience this while among other christians.

I am deeply sorry that you have had this experience here. Just know that we are not all like this.

God Bless you!
 
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rainacorn

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I considered being upset by being ignored in the chat, however after listening to those people talk to each other for about 20 minutes, I realized it's really not a group I want to be a part of.

I'm fine with people ignoring my forum posts instead.
 
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Tobby17

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Yehonadav said:
I'm new here and the past two days I've been in chat, I almost had to beg to even be acknowledged. Now I understand I'm new and no one really knows me but come on, how do you expect the unsaved to want to come to Jesus if when new folks come in that aren't part of the 'click' are ignored??? Today I didn't get a 'hello' at all, even after trying to spark conversation.

I understand that christians are supposed to be tight knit group, but that doesn't mean we exclude all outsiders. My suggestion is that we work a little more on being friendly and welcoming, even to those we don't know. Jesus doesn't ignore anyone and neither should we.

Please don't take this as me beating up on folks, because that's not my intention at all, but if we don't show the love of Christ then why are we here? I'm not perfect at this either, hence why I said 'we'. Let us purpose to make every user welcome and manifest His love so that we may win some to the Lord :)
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IT..IS...A...PROBLEM!!!

If you're new, trust me, you don't want to go into the Longue Room.
 
Snackersmom

Snackersmom

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May 10, 2011
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I'm new here also, and after observing the chat for several minutes on several occasions, I decided to avoid it at all costs. That thing is like twelve yorkies playing dizzy-bat in a moonbounce. Yeeeeks. It would probably help if there were more chats to choose from, maybe one for the singles, one for teens, parents,ladies, men, whatever. There could even be one for those who like to spend hours debating relatively minor theological points that God probably doesn't even care about. Oops, did I say that out loud?.......Anyway, I'm going to take this to the suggestions thread. Join me? Together, we are strong(er)!
 
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allforfun

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Snackersmom said:
I'm new here also, and after observing the chat for several minutes on several occasions, I decided to avoid it at all costs. That thing is like twelve yorkies playing dizzy-bat in a moonbounce. Yeeeeks. It would probably help if there were more chats to choose from, maybe one for the singles, one for teens, parents,ladies, men, whatever. There could even be one for those who like to spend hours debating relatively minor theological points that God probably doesn't even care about. Oops, did I say that out loud?.......Anyway, I'm going to take this to the suggestions thread. Join me? Together, we are strong(er)!
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Will you be my BFF? :)

I have been in chat twice. Once when I first came here and once last night. I don't have the patience. Good luck to those who do. I wouldn't take it personally if no one noticed you or said hi.
 
Snackersmom

Snackersmom

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May 10, 2011
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Will you be my BFF?
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lol, sure!:) But I just realized that this IS the suggestions thread. My bad. I guess we're already where we need to be.
 
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violakat

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Snackersmom said:
I'm new here also, and after observing the chat for several minutes on several occasions, I decided to avoid it at all costs. That thing is like twelve yorkies playing dizzy-bat in a moonbounce. Yeeeeks. It would probably help if there were more chats to choose from, maybe one for the singles, one for teens, parents,ladies, men, whatever. There could even be one for those who like to spend hours debating relatively minor theological points that God probably doesn't even care about. Oops, did I say that out loud?.......Anyway, I'm going to take this to the suggestions thread. Join me? Together, we are strong(er)!
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There are actually multiple rooms available to go in. If you look at the top of the chat room, you'll notice that there is a drop gown box hat says rooms. This allows you to select the room you want to go to after you enter the chat room.

If your interested, I'll try and be on to night and explain how it works.
 
Snackersmom

Snackersmom

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May 10, 2011
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There are actually multiple rooms available to go in. If you look at the top of the chat room, you'll notice that there is a drop gown box hat says rooms. This allows you to select the room you want to go to after you enter the chat room.
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Oh, ok. Thanks, I hadn't noticed that feature. I think I've got it, but I'll call if I need ya!
 
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