Basic courtesy

Sometimes I wonder if simple, basic courtesy has been thrown out the window here.

There are some people who will come into the chat rooms, and nobody says anything to make that person feel welcome - not even a simple "Hi so-and-so". Sometimes that simple "hello" from a person can make the difference in making another person decide whether to stay or not.

What are your thoughts on this?

I understand what you are saying. I was in there earlier...and both time I said hi to you....you left for another room right at the EXACT same time lol

When you came back....I was viewing a video someone sent me and was not really there...and then just logged out.

I hope this gets better. I will do my part to try harder to make people feel more welcome.

I agree I try to welcome people and I usually get ignored not always but unless I say something rarely anyone will say anything. I know we tend to find people we talk to regularly and we don't know that guy and so we won't talk to him.
Another thing is like I PM someone does that instantly make me a creeper? If your in a chat room expect to be PMed
Common courtesy would be nice but hard to achieve

I guess people have been burnt by 'strangers' ya know?........I know I have

agreed
mayb the mod that is in the room at that time or even appoint some to be official greeters
i must say there are many times stilly does that...

Sometimes it is just plain hard to keep up with everyone who comes into the room . I know there have been manytimes I have got caught up is saying hi to everyone that I can't even chat because so many people are coming and going. But I do try to welcome as many as possible, other times I maybe in a Private message or have the window down because I am doing something else. Maybe afk , so many reasons as to the why. But just jump in and chat with people make yourself seen in a nice way of course..
Now for topic #2. I do not private message people and yes mostly men because like missy said I have had some strange pm's, So Yes I do say lets chat in the main room and get to know each other a bit there.. there use to be a rule that you had to ask permission first when I first came here. So it is not that I am high strung or think i am above you that I say donot pm me.. Remember this is the internet and we cannot be too careful .
GBU
Rae

I am so glad you brought this up as I've felt like saying this for a long time. It really annoys me to see that some many people have just looked at a topic so many times and there's so little replies. You'd think being on a Christian forum that it was much different and that everyone would be welcoming but obviously not I do try to reply to as many people as I can and am gonna try so much more to try and welcome everyone and include everyone. I feel like some people on the forum only include certain people that they've known for ages. I can safely say that nobody on my friends list hasn't welcomed me or made me feel left out though

It's a chatroom, unavoidable. Everyone chatroom is like that.

I don't think it's such a big of a deal to require special "greeters". .

Sometimes you say hello to a person and they immediately leave (are room hopping) anyway.

There might be a discussion everyone is engaged in or in private chat.

The solution to this is very simple. If no one says hello to you, you type hello in the main window, and keep typing hello until someone responds.

Yeah. I am always around in the chatroom and try to say hello to everyone.. but even the new people wont say anything either..
so it should go both ways.. The best way to make friends is to take the initiative

I agree friend ship goes both ways. It just hard when you initiate and they shut you down and then its like fine who needs you!
I try not to be like that but you know what gives

I agree that it happens in the chat room, it happened to me the first time I went on and since then I haven't been on because there were some many people in there and only one person bothered to take their time to say hi and make me feel welcome. As far as I can remember they were all talking together as well. But like i said earlier, its not just the chat room that people are being ignored in, its here on the forum as well. Please don't think I'm asking for attention when I say this and expect all of you to post because its just an example but I posted a prayer request and in the title of the topic I put 'Trying to find my dad' and only one person replied. I respect that some people just dont know what to say because i'll admit that I struggle what to say at times but when there's so little replies and so many views I find it quite rude that only one persons replied. I'm not blaming anyone specifically at all so please don't take offence to this comment

I agree with Raeshelle's first point. In busy times it's hard to keep up with everyone entering and leaving the room... plus when the room is packed it's near-on impossible to get the mic. Sometimes even typing a 'hello' is hard.. cos of the speed of the room, and by the time you include everyone... some of those people have left.

I mean an automated 'hello newcomer' that greeted all new people as they entered, would solve the problem, but this takes time and money, both of which this site is short on. It would also be really annoying saying hi to someone who logs in then back out then in then out.. you get my drift.

At this stage. this site has great features, and there are future plans to advance on those when the provision comes through.

As a mod however, I gotta say.. I try to greet new people, but sometimes I'm dealing with other more pressing issues and I just dont notice them enter.
There's also nothing wrong with a new user saying hello first, instead of waiting to be greeted, then complaining about people being rude.

Just a thought!