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Okay, so I have a little something bugging me that I'd love some feedback on, so first a bit of background and then my question.
I'm 21. I was raised in a strong Christian household and still hold those values and beliefs very close to my heart today. Over the past while, I've been reading on asexuality, as I've never been sexually attracted to anyone, nor ever had the urge to masturbate or any other sort of sexual activity, including, until recently, kissing. My first kiss was quite gross in fact, though now I find my current boyfriend is quite a good kisser
Anyway, one goal of Christians is to not lust after people (as in, not to have/dwell on sexual attraction towards people), and, as is widely known, sex is a point of consternation within the Church, and it's drilled into us not to think about or act on sex outside marriage.
Here's my question(s). If I have never had sexual attraction to anyone, or at all, how can I tell if I am truly asexual or if I've just been so highly influenced by my religion that I've trained myself to not recognize sexual attraction or feel it, or whatever? Also, do you think that's even possible? I ask, because, if I've never felt it, how do I know what it is? Maybe I HAVE felt it, but not recognized it as such.
See, I can definitely see myself being attracted to my future partner. I feel like because I can imagine, and even expect a future sexual relationship, I've essentially just set a religious timer on myself, and when it kicks in, when I meet "the right guy", suddenly I'll be totally sexual (or gradually I will be). Though in my understanding, that's close to how demisexuality works - once you find someone you have a strong emotional bond with, and as long as that bond holds, you can be as sexual with that person as a sexual person would be.
Yeah, so mainly I'm sort of conflicted with "Am I actually asexual, or am I just a really good Christian?" And, I know, no one can answer for me, but I was just looking to get some other people's views on the thing.
Also, sorry if this post sounds jumbled or whatever, I'm notoriously bad at putting my thoughts clearly into words.
I'm 21. I was raised in a strong Christian household and still hold those values and beliefs very close to my heart today. Over the past while, I've been reading on asexuality, as I've never been sexually attracted to anyone, nor ever had the urge to masturbate or any other sort of sexual activity, including, until recently, kissing. My first kiss was quite gross in fact, though now I find my current boyfriend is quite a good kisser
Anyway, one goal of Christians is to not lust after people (as in, not to have/dwell on sexual attraction towards people), and, as is widely known, sex is a point of consternation within the Church, and it's drilled into us not to think about or act on sex outside marriage.
Here's my question(s). If I have never had sexual attraction to anyone, or at all, how can I tell if I am truly asexual or if I've just been so highly influenced by my religion that I've trained myself to not recognize sexual attraction or feel it, or whatever? Also, do you think that's even possible? I ask, because, if I've never felt it, how do I know what it is? Maybe I HAVE felt it, but not recognized it as such.
See, I can definitely see myself being attracted to my future partner. I feel like because I can imagine, and even expect a future sexual relationship, I've essentially just set a religious timer on myself, and when it kicks in, when I meet "the right guy", suddenly I'll be totally sexual (or gradually I will be). Though in my understanding, that's close to how demisexuality works - once you find someone you have a strong emotional bond with, and as long as that bond holds, you can be as sexual with that person as a sexual person would be.
Yeah, so mainly I'm sort of conflicted with "Am I actually asexual, or am I just a really good Christian?" And, I know, no one can answer for me, but I was just looking to get some other people's views on the thing.
Also, sorry if this post sounds jumbled or whatever, I'm notoriously bad at putting my thoughts clearly into words.