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Courtship advocates claim courtship leaves less room for a broken heart.
But that is simply not true.
Actually it's VERY untrue.
The courtship mindset starts out VERY serious. Right away you consider yourself on the track to marriage with the person, as the other person is basically the future husband/wife. So you plod along, working it out, with your heart and mind so quickly convinced this is the one. But if/when it fails, you lose a LOT more emotionally, because all along, they were THE ONE.
I had a friend who had "kissed dating goodbye", and she ended up "courting" four different guys at different times over a five year period. The emotional damage of those "breakups" was more severe in my opinion than I see from those who date and then decide somewhere along the way it's a no go.
But that is simply not true.
Actually it's VERY untrue.
The courtship mindset starts out VERY serious. Right away you consider yourself on the track to marriage with the person, as the other person is basically the future husband/wife. So you plod along, working it out, with your heart and mind so quickly convinced this is the one. But if/when it fails, you lose a LOT more emotionally, because all along, they were THE ONE.
I had a friend who had "kissed dating goodbye", and she ended up "courting" four different guys at different times over a five year period. The emotional damage of those "breakups" was more severe in my opinion than I see from those who date and then decide somewhere along the way it's a no go.