orangecarmel;
To being more specific, there is no "must to do" rules when coming to flirting. It is just that how the world bases on it and makes of it today is a lot based on "sex". Same way as how most MTV videos are, and also a lot of commercial, music, lyricks, dancing, etc... I beleive this is why "flirting" has become something most people would define as an dirty act to do, and leading you astray into temptation. Yes, if you listen to that long list of flirting tips you got on the first page in this thread; You will more likely be seen as an "one-night-stand" opportunity for one guy. The good guys will most likely keep themselves away from you, whilst the bad guys will jump into your flirting game.
I got also told when I was younger to see what things the guy liked and try learning everything I can from it to impress him and getting his attention. I never did this, I thought it was pointless and rather boring to for example learn a lot about different cars, and especially about all the car parts, and how it works, the motor, etc... Lol! Sooner or later the guy might have found out, either through you or through some others that knows you that you normally have zero interest in cars and everything added to that.
And then what? Would that still impress him? Sure, if he'd start liking you, it'd probably go fine. Yet, it is best being honest, as well as seeing what you have in commun. And sure, maybe later you'd like learning more about other things that interests him and you'd get more interested into that as well. But then I'd think it'd just come out all natural.
Guys are fine with that you don't always like everything they like of things. Same way they'll probably be with you, not everything you'll like might be what a guy likes. Also flirting is not always very important, like I said earlier it has always been a way for me showing some form of interest when I was younger as well as before I married. What counts most is that you do show interest to a guy that you like, and if you do like Kayem says to showing him a lot more attention than most other ones, I do think he will notice it. Guys are not
that silly, you know.
Although, sure, nothing wrong with being a bit direct too, if you dare that, if you feel like you'd like to know where you've got him, as well as wanting him to know you are interested in getting to know him more and that you do like him quite much. But it should all feel as something natural for you to saying, if it is forced out what you say it will feel a lot more unpleasent than great with whatever comes out from what you say.
