I actually went “cold turkey” and stopped looking at women altogether for a year. When I say stopped looking, I mean dating, flirting, fantasizing and things of that nature. The commitment I made to not dating and flirting over the course of the year was fairly easy to keep. But I have to say, controlling the thoughts in my mind was a lot more difficult. I felt as though I was losing the battle initially, but over time it got easier and I was able to overcome. For me personally, the key was getting to know myself. The more I knew myself, the more I knew my limitations and how particular things tempted and affected me. Once I had this understanding, I made a commitment to myself and the Father to avoid at all costs those things that made me weak. After some time, I discovered a newfound control of my mind. Many things that would have caused me to stumble in the past now have no effect on me. In regards to the things that would still have a negative effect and cause me to stumble, I am able to recognize those tempting situations and avoid them, for the most part. I feel that I can now look at women the way our Father intended, instead of with a worldly eye.
Basically, I would say the key is knowing yourself and your limits, as well as making a commitment to the Father and yourself. Steer clear of those things that tempt you – a tree can’t grow where no seed is planted, if you get what I am saying. In the beginning, you will have to make a conscience effort, but eventually it will get easier and become second-nature.
So, stay in faith and remain in constant prayer. Your Father loves you and is loyal. He will give you strength when you seek His will. GBU
