Hi
Hope to get some good Biblical Godly advice about what to do. Some background info-I am a grandmother and a Christian. I've had a very abusive childhood-my mother was a mean, vindictive bully and my father molested me as a child, I was pretty messed up and learned not to rock the boat and let stuff go to keep the peace. I have a relationship with both my parents still but it's hard to forget the stuff they did to me as a child. I forgive them but the bad feelings never go away for me.
My daughter has just had a new baby and all of my sisters and their kids and my mother refused to go to any of her showers which caused many hard feelings for me and my daughter. My new grandchild was born this weekend, 5 weeks premature and my mother instead of being happy for me, screamed at me because it was announced on a social media site before anyone told her personally. I haven't spoken to her since and NONE of my family has even reached out to my daughter and congratulated her for the baby's birth. Not one person! I don't know how to handle this, I"m so angry and disappointed for their behavior but certainly not surprised-they've only ever cared about themselves-kids and grandkids are secondary. I want to honor my parents like it says in the Bible but I can't make these bad feelings go away. I don't want to nurse pain and unforgiveness but it's really eating away at me. I don't really care if I ever see them again but I feel so guilty because this is not how a Christian is supposed to feel.
Congratulations, first off, and God does just love us all, even those that do not believe, nor seek God. yet it is God's kindness not ours, and if we are trying to be as we have been taught to be, then this where all this guilt trip is coming from, self energy. Up one day, down the next like a roller coaster. and after awhile takes a toll on one that really wants all to get along and just love each other
Kudos to you for this want.
Now I hope to share truth with you that sets you free in this mess that you are in despite how others act or react.
first off, God does Just love you and all, and this is not about whether anyone has done right or wrong, except Christ the only one that came here perfectly and perfectly walked as God asked him to, all the way to the cross. To do this
John 1:29 [
John Testifies About Jesus ] The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him and said, “Look, the
Lamb of God, who takes away the sin
of the world!
When Christ went to the cross and died he took away the sin of the world not in this world's sight, rather in his Father's sight.
So by this taking away sin that caused death
Colossians 1:21 Once
you were alienated from God and
were enemies in
your minds because of
your evil behavior.
Colossians 1:22 But now he has reconciled you
by Christ’s
physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation—
Now we are looking at the above scripture from God's vantage point through the cross, not man's selfish viewpoint as you are so very familiar with in your own Family and wish fro them to Change and are as well trying to forgive their bad behaviors, and thus are even looking at your own and are in Guilt over it.
Sister flesh takes advantage of this, Merciful behavior that you try to show and then when you get mad over anything you are put on the chopping block, and is where guilt is coming from.
Now please see this because you believe you are in the reception of the forgiveness that Christ did for you before you were ever born.
We have the message of:
2 Corinthians 5:19 that God was
reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the
message of reconciliation.
Reconciliation is forgiveness 100% so now right now be reconciled back to God thanking God for this.
2 Corinthians 5:20 We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s
behalf:
Be reconciled to God.
Okay now that you have received this you now have new life in God, dead to your old self and alive to God in the Spirit of God by the resurrected Christ
[h=3]Romans 6:4[/h]New International Version (NIV)
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4 [/SUP]We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.
So now life this new life in God in the Spirit of God and see what God's kindness does to those that one is kind to, when they know what they have done, the purpose of God to do this through you is to lead them to repentance, yet not to be a door mat either
Romans 2:4
Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended
to lead you
to repentance?
I show the above first part of the verse every time I walk in the flesh and anger spills out, how about you?
So seeing the rest of the verse, is it you that God wants you to be kind to all? Or is it God through your free choice of asking God to do this through you, where God gets all the glory.
Then see this and ask fro this below to become you trusting God to do what is needed to be said or done, so you can rest medicine in him
[h=3]Matthew 10:16-20[/h]New International Version (NIV)
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16 [/SUP]“I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves. [SUP]
17 [/SUP]Be on your guard; you will be handed over to the local councils and be flogged in the synagogues. [SUP]
18 [/SUP]On my account you will be brought before governors and kings as witnesses to them and to the Gentiles. [SUP]
19 [/SUP]But when they arrest you, do not worry about what to say or how to say it. At that time you will be given what to say,
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20 [/SUP]for it will not be you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.
We are arrested each and every day, by this world of what others say about us whether in front of us or not. When we could be freed from what others think about me. Freed from what I think others think about me, and freed from what I think about myself.
God is trying to get us off the tread mill of guilt.
Now tell if you know that God has accepted you in God (the beloved) will you ever again need anyone else's approval?
[h=3]Ephesians 1:6-13[/h]New International Version (NIV)
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6 [/SUP]to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.(
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7 [/SUP]In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace [SUP]
8 [/SUP]that he lavished on us. With all wisdom and understanding, [SUP]
9 [/SUP]he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, [SUP]
10 [/SUP]to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.
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11 [/SUP]In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, [SUP]
12 [/SUP]in order that we, who were the first to put our hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory. [SUP]
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And you also were included in Christ when you heard the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation. When you believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit,
Ephesians 1:6
to
the praise of
the glory of His grace, by which He made us
accepted in the Beloved.
Hope this helps praying so?
. It's also true for my husband's mother...she'll make us feel guilty for not staying longer while she's helping us pack to go back home. Sometimes, you just have to laugh- things can become so ridiculous.
