Know what it is that you want. Don't allow others to try and dictate your life. You can only please some of the people some of the time. But who are you living for? That's one of many reasons why I chose to follow Christ. Even though my actions may not be pleasing to my Lord all the time, one thing I know for certain, his grace and guidance is consistent than any man I know. How do I know this to be true? Well for one, I'm still here to talk about it, aren't I? And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.