How Do You Treat Someone Who Cheats (or Has Cheated) On Their Significant Other?

[GreenNnice]

Other.


That kind of situation would be His opportunity for me to tell them about a bible story or two, namely, David, who cheated on Bathsheba and God forgave David. But, first, David did REPENT of his sin and David did learn that his child that was born by Bathsheba would die. God disciplines His own, I would tell them. I would let them know that we all sin and are all able to come to Him for forgiveness of our sins. Repenting is huge, it changes us, we go to God and His power will overwhelm us. It just will, IF you let it, if you let Him . Faith. That of a mustard seed will do it, too.

And, if they were not a Christian, I would still mention God but in a way that let them know that God loves them more than anything else. The Lord leads.

 

[maxwel]

Seoulsearch,

The reason we have a problem with love and forgiveness, is usually because we are using those words in a way that fits pop culture, not in a way the bible explains them.

Love
To love someone is to want what is best for them.
Imagine someone is standing in front of you, who is actively in sin, and completely unrepentant...
you know you're supposed to love them, but what does that mean?
To love someone, biblically, means to want what is best for them.
If you want what is best for this person, that would be repentance.
You should desire, and pray, they repent.

It isn't your obligation to be their best bud, or light up like you're looking at Jesus,
or do any other number of fake and ridiculous things.
What you should feel is that they need repentance.
You should desire for them to repent,
and you should act accordingly, with prudence, and with God's guidance.


Forgiveness
Imagine someone is standing in front of you who is actively in sin, and completely unrepentant.
They are sinning against God, and others, and you want to be biblical, and offer them forgiveness.
So what does that look like?
What does it look like to forgive when someone is unrepentant,
and doesn't even want forgiveness?

This is something purely internal.
You recognize they are the same as you, both are sinners.
This inherently means... you are not superior to them, as you are both sinners.

Now that you are looking at them in an equal way,
thinking they are a sinner just like you...
You are now capable of 2 things:
1. Looking on them as a sinner who needs God's mercy
2. Looking on them as a sinner who needs to recognize his sin, and come to repentance.

Forgiving the unrepentant is really just to recognize they need God's mercy.
Loving the unrepentant is really just to recognize they need to come to repentance.

You aren't required to treat them like they're awesome and wonderful or something.

You aren't required to "feel", like nothing ever happened.

You aren't required to put on some artificial facade.

But you are required to have biblical love, and biblical forgiveness...
that is to recognize they need God's mercy, and they need repentance.


The unrepentant person needs God's mercy and repentance.
They don't deserve it... just like us.
They don't deserve it at all... just like us.
But it is what they need.

How do you view them?
You view them as a sinner who needs God's mercy, and who needs repentance.

That's all.

You don't have to thrilled to see them.
You don't have to be fake.

But you do need to view them as someone who needs God's mercy, and who needs repentance.

 

[hattiebod]

Forgive them, just as Christ has forgiven you. <><

 

[jerusalem]

i'm having a little bit of a problem with the term significant other......how is that rendered by christian definition