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I don't.
I would say, don't rush anything and don't let anyone rush you. Time will reveal the truth of who people are for good or for worse. Give any and every relationship plenty of time. The right person will still be the right person; and the wrong person can't hold a mask indefinitely.
I don't know where i heard it but, Rome wasn't built in a day, neither is the trust that it takes to build a relationship that will stand the test of time.
A well polished turd is still a turd. Time is like the sniff test.
I would say, don't rush anything and don't let anyone rush you. Time will reveal the truth of who people are for good or for worse. Give any and every relationship plenty of time. The right person will still be the right person; and the wrong person can't hold a mask indefinitely.
I don't know where i heard it but, Rome wasn't built in a day, neither is the trust that it takes to build a relationship that will stand the test of time.
A well polished turd is still a turd. Time is like the sniff test.
Think of it this way, there are somethings in life which you dont understand but you pray about, and when you wait GOD just reveals them to you. but these things do not take much of your time but you just trust GOD on them and continue on what GOD has put in your hands to do. the very same with the ""RIGHT ONE"", just pray and continue with daily GODLY work
My answer is going to be a little different than the others so far, because I don't believe in "soul mates" or "the one". It's not meant to sound pessimistic, but rather more realistic (which I know to some can be interchangeable, ha). I just don't think that out of the millions of guys on the planet who are in my age range and who are Christians that there is only one that I'd be compatible with for marriage.
I think it's more about a commitment than "Is he the one?" That makes me sound rather cold, as I do think love, understanding, etc. all need to be involved. But let's say that I'm dating someone who I think is "the one". We get married. He doesn't like kittens, he only tolerates mine, but it's whatever because I still love him. One week after we're married, I meet a guy who is everything that my husband is BUT he also likes kittens! What if he was actually "the one"?? That's just one example of why I think "the one" is a bit of a fantasy.
I'm not saying you have to commit to one person and then you're done because you've committed to them (not in regards to dating, at least; In marriage, most definitely it is to one person). Like Liamson said, time will tell. As you spend more time with someone, and time in prayer, you'll see what kind of person they are and whether that is someone you can be with for the rest of your life.
I think it's more about a commitment than "Is he the one?" That makes me sound rather cold, as I do think love, understanding, etc. all need to be involved. But let's say that I'm dating someone who I think is "the one". We get married. He doesn't like kittens, he only tolerates mine, but it's whatever because I still love him. One week after we're married, I meet a guy who is everything that my husband is BUT he also likes kittens! What if he was actually "the one"?? That's just one example of why I think "the one" is a bit of a fantasy.
I'm not saying you have to commit to one person and then you're done because you've committed to them (not in regards to dating, at least; In marriage, most definitely it is to one person). Like Liamson said, time will tell. As you spend more time with someone, and time in prayer, you'll see what kind of person they are and whether that is someone you can be with for the rest of your life.
mhhhh i beg to differ and not to argue or anything, but what i do believe is that GOD has everything ordained and set and HE knows who we are supposed to be with. and should be with, so its more of seeking HIM and yes getting to know your spouse, but if its who GOD wants for us, then we can not say no. He knows better
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God also gives us a gift of freewill, and by detailing a plan that we are "required" to follow, that gift is pointless and useless. God knows what is best for us, and what will make us happy in the long run, but ultimately the choice is ours, and with God at the center it is impossible to go wrong.
To answer the question at hand, I kind of answered it in another recent thread. A lot of the girls around my age in my area that I would be interested in are not Christians, and the ones that are I have absolutely no compatibility with whatsoever, or they are already married (I'm not about to pack up and leave my kids just to chase after girls). Outside of that any christian women I do find things common with and talk to are in their late 40's to 50's. So I know that when one comes along that I am compatible with, and is single and under 40 and willing to be with me, then I won't have to worry about waiting much longer.
To answer the question at hand, I kind of answered it in another recent thread. A lot of the girls around my age in my area that I would be interested in are not Christians, and the ones that are I have absolutely no compatibility with whatsoever, or they are already married (I'm not about to pack up and leave my kids just to chase after girls). Outside of that any christian women I do find things common with and talk to are in their late 40's to 50's. So I know that when one comes along that I am compatible with, and is single and under 40 and willing to be with me, then I won't have to worry about waiting much longer.
Consider Hosea man, GOD told Him to marry a prostitute. Hosea was i believe a prophet, what compatibility is there between a prophet and a Prostitute? free will indeed, but really when we are in CHRIST we are prisoners to HIM (in an optimistic way). when we GIVE OUR LIVES over, we no longer are in control of them. but He guides us, Levels with our misunderstandings, and many more. so i would say that its way more than what we understand what GOD wants for us. provided He has a total different plan for EACH and EVERYONE of us. there could be similarities but they are NOT the same.
so what i would say to conclude is that, WALK with GOD, and do the assigned work HE gave us, living with Him step by step, and when HE sees fit, He put us to sleep and give us our EVE. but what matters first? As GOD saw that ADAM needed a wife, so HE should put it in our hearts and lives the need to have one in HIS TIME. not that we should HURRY HIM up because everyone else is getting married, nope. HIS time should be our time.
God bless.
so what i would say to conclude is that, WALK with GOD, and do the assigned work HE gave us, living with Him step by step, and when HE sees fit, He put us to sleep and give us our EVE. but what matters first? As GOD saw that ADAM needed a wife, so HE should put it in our hearts and lives the need to have one in HIS TIME. not that we should HURRY HIM up because everyone else is getting married, nope. HIS time should be our time.
God bless.