I think my sister is making the wrong choices

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
V

Vintagebeauty

Guest
#1
#1
Hi so I need advice about two years ago my sisters husband left her because he was cheating. My sister is in the process of getting devorced. About 6 months ago she meat a guy from a church (same religon) I am now a different religon but I have seen him before anyway. At first I got along with him well but then my sister was talking to me how he can't get over the fact that she was with another man (sexually,relationship ect.) I know he has trust issues. So about 2weeks ago he texts me and asked me if there is anything I should know about my sister! And he told me not to tell her he texted me! Now to me this was wrong because he was going behind her back asking question when he should have asked her. Which he has but I guess is afraid she isn't telling him everything! so basically he don't trust her! So i told her he texted me and she sided with him which i figured she would. Also they just started being sexually active and they are both youth leaders of different churches! I really wish she would leave him. I hav this burden/feeling thats not right like I did when she was married and she ended up devoriced! I told her how I feel but. I don't know how to act around him he is quite now around me? Do you think this is a toxic relationship? How do I talk to her? I need help? I cry over this because I don't want to see my sister hurt ?
 
P

presidente

Senior Member
#2
May 29, 2013
9,091
1,754
113
#2
If the man doesn't know she's married, you should definitely tell him.
 
L

Lucy68

Senior Member
#3
Jan 21, 2011
2,538
22
0
#3
If they are adults then they need to decide for themselves and you need to let them. You've advised your sister about what is right but you can't make her do it. Pray for her and be ready to help her through the emotional pain that may occur.

Yes, she should step down as youth leader if she's living in blatant sin. But again, you can't force her to do that.
 
IDEAtor

IDEAtor

Senior Member
#4
Aug 15, 2012
827
19
18
#4
She represents God in a different light as a youth pastor than someone else in her situation.
I know you said, "leader." Whatever the case, if she is teaching Scripture to teens and is living
a flip-flop life, then she needs to step down OR get right. Maybe both.

Since this is a burden you share with us, I encourage you to write a positive-focused letter that refocuses the issue to living what she is teaching children/teens. You can start with thanks and praise and then just highlight the "pink elephant" in the text. "Are you making choices that further the Kingdom, or are you hindering the church for which you work? If you are doing ____, please refrain. It is against the men involved, the church, the children, and--most of all-- God. I share my feelings, yes, as an imperfect sister, but also as one who cares for you. Praying for you, --__________-".

If sin is in the camp, God knows.
(Joshua 7-9: Sin in the Camp).
 
You must log in or register to reply here.