I'm lonely... And not just the want the girlfriend/wife type of thing.
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I've been told "the best way to make friends is join a church." and I agree. >_< spend more time at church. join the drama team. that doesn't mean you're on stange, you could help set up back grounds or wave a cloth behind them or something. >_< but it gives you a group to get to know. I recently found TWO clubs that i'm going to have to choose between. and online they look like something that no one really goes to but when i went to a meeting i was greeted by many people and in one night found friends that i hope i get to stay friends with. >_<
go out and find a group. thats way easier then walking up to a stranger and seeing if you'll get along. ^-^.
go out and find a group. thats way easier then walking up to a stranger and seeing if you'll get along. ^-^.
J
I can relate. It's very hard for me to find opportunities for me to make friends and all of my friends have moved out of my life or are on the way out. Frankly it's just hard to find any friends around where I live, and since we're roughly in the same age-range I can understand why. A Christian social life in the 18-30y/o range just seems hard these days.
For me it is hard to just find any Christian friends near me to hang out with because the folk in my age-range have either fallen away from faith (which is disturbingly common for my generation) or they're too wrapped up in their school/work-lives to spend any time on making/being friends. As for the folk that are older than my age-range, they seem to have no interest in me at all. And I'm talking about Christians on both accounts. I am going to church and I am becoming more and more active in it, and this is just what I've found. The thing is, the church just doesn't focus on genuine, intimate, brotherly/sisterly fellowship enough anymore. I just about envy the first genetation Christians because they had that.
Of course, we could have somewhat of a friendship with unbelievers but it's obviously not the same thing as having a close friendship with a Christian brother/sister. In the end, I suppose we just need to pray and to also stop caring so much about our personal needs and our well-being. At least, that is what I try to do and I tell myself: "Want a friend? Be a friend",
(Luke 6:38) "Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure-pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return."
So I try not to worry about my loneliness and needs for a friend, and instead try to worry about others loneliness. It's incredibly hard sometimes, especially after going through several "friendships" where no one does you the favor of valuing your friendship and putting the same effort as you have, but in the end God's got our back. He'll use the annoying/hurtful relationships to shape us if we'll receive instruction, but hopefully we'll have done a lot of good work in peoples lives by being the kind of friend you would love to have. The church lacks sometimes--we're not perfect--and so that's a good opportunity to make a difference in the church, because surely there's someone out there going through the same stuggle as us. So, as someone mentioned, just try to become more active in your church. I've been doing that by going to get-togethers and I'm starting to volunteer more, and even though there isn't any blatant progress in the "friendship department", they are still great opportunities to learn; plus you get more and more opportunities to get to know people. Sooner or later we'll be blessed for the hard work.
For me it is hard to just find any Christian friends near me to hang out with because the folk in my age-range have either fallen away from faith (which is disturbingly common for my generation) or they're too wrapped up in their school/work-lives to spend any time on making/being friends. As for the folk that are older than my age-range, they seem to have no interest in me at all. And I'm talking about Christians on both accounts. I am going to church and I am becoming more and more active in it, and this is just what I've found. The thing is, the church just doesn't focus on genuine, intimate, brotherly/sisterly fellowship enough anymore. I just about envy the first genetation Christians because they had that.
Of course, we could have somewhat of a friendship with unbelievers but it's obviously not the same thing as having a close friendship with a Christian brother/sister. In the end, I suppose we just need to pray and to also stop caring so much about our personal needs and our well-being. At least, that is what I try to do and I tell myself: "Want a friend? Be a friend",
(Luke 6:38) "Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure-pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return."
So I try not to worry about my loneliness and needs for a friend, and instead try to worry about others loneliness. It's incredibly hard sometimes, especially after going through several "friendships" where no one does you the favor of valuing your friendship and putting the same effort as you have, but in the end God's got our back. He'll use the annoying/hurtful relationships to shape us if we'll receive instruction, but hopefully we'll have done a lot of good work in peoples lives by being the kind of friend you would love to have. The church lacks sometimes--we're not perfect--and so that's a good opportunity to make a difference in the church, because surely there's someone out there going through the same stuggle as us. So, as someone mentioned, just try to become more active in your church. I've been doing that by going to get-togethers and I'm starting to volunteer more, and even though there isn't any blatant progress in the "friendship department", they are still great opportunities to learn; plus you get more and more opportunities to get to know people. Sooner or later we'll be blessed for the hard work.
G
Jesus called His disciples, after a time of understanding, friends, dothackbuddy, everything in life takes time, and, if your life is zeroed in on His way then that timing for everythibg of your life will be seen,xand, known, as His. Be 'led,' my friend, the Lord leads 
A deeper understanding of Him, and, delving in to His Word, His ways, listening to His small voice will tap you in to all God has to offer you. You are sooo young, kid, brother, keep on keeping on , with Him, see this time as a season, remembering that seasons can be very short in some states or practically the same one all year round in other states or really distinct summer, fall, winter, spring, in still others.
A deeper understanding of Him, and, delving in to His Word, His ways, listening to His small voice will tap you in to all God has to offer you. You are sooo young, kid, brother, keep on keeping on , with Him, see this time as a season, remembering that seasons can be very short in some states or practically the same one all year round in other states or really distinct summer, fall, winter, spring, in still others.
G
Being single may not be the end of the world.
....THEONE.
The Lord gives us ALL the grace we need, all the Love, YOU make Him your real-time, all the time number One in your life and you will see soo much, brotherdotK
You are NEVER lonely with His leading, YOU keep.on keeping on with your sights on Him . Keep swimmmmmmmming, YOU show Him all you can do, for His glory, not yours, you BENEFIT others in your conversation, keep it light and keep it squarely on Him, He is leading you, stronger and stronger leading, YOU HOLD ON, K, He will never leave you nor forsake you, K, you're maKing great progress, K.
Keep on keeping on Him, on your mind, you live your life as you must, but YOU keep on keeping on target for goaling your life after Him. God bless ya, K, buddy
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I won't come here and tell you 'I understand how you feel'.., since, I'm rarely in that position. Well, you're here, so I'll advice you start adding people and not just making post. Try to be proactive, don't consider distance at the very moment, what matters is keeping up with the communication, if things goes smoothly, you guys can sort out the distance thing. I for one, prefer a distance friendship cos of my busy schedule, and I know it may be different for others. But first thing first, keep up with the communication and you will see things will gradually sort themselves out. Hope this help.