I have been w/ my husband for almost 18 yrs we have a 16 yr old severely disabled son. I am a stay at home mom & my husband is a tow boat captain. We have had a lot of struggles in our marriage but have always stayed together. We have strayed back & forth away from god over the yrs but have always been believers. We got in a huge argument Mon. & I told him to get his **** & leave so he started packing. Of course I was just mad & didnt really want him to. But he kept packing more & more of his stuff out I realized that he was really leaving I cried & pleaded for him to stay he told me he was already gone & that I made him sick. He left & turned his phone off. He came back the next day he was cold & kept packing he wouldnt talk to me or let me touch him. I asked him where he had put his stuff he said in storage but couldn't remember the name & didnt have a receipt & couldn't remember the name of the hotel he stayed in. Long story short he came back later telling he needed time to get himself right w/ god to be a better father & husband he was crying I asked him to let me know where he was staying & not to shut his phone off b/ c we have a disabled son who just had spine surgery. He said he would let me know & wouldn't turn his phone off but he lied. The next day about 3pm he finally called he had a million excuses but he was leaving to go back on the boat he said he regretted leaving. Then once he got to work he told me he had been chatting with a women & had another phone to talk to her for the last 3 yrs they have seen each other 5 times she has flown to where he has been . She moved here from Nevada to Missouri last Week that's where his stuff is at. I am devasted!
Hey Christy,
I am really sorry to hear this but if you are a true believer, in times like this you need to meditate on scripture that speaks of 'the sovereignty of God'. Once you know God is in complete 100% control, you can relax somewhat as scripture also says 'God works all things for the good of those who love him' (Romans 8:2).
You don't have the ability to change Your husbands heart only God does, so pray, and if its God's will your husbands heart will be changed. But if its not God's will, you don't want that anyway because it won't be to your benefit.
The first practical step is to join a local church if you haven't already. There's only a certain amount of help that you can get on an online forum but a pastor and congregation can offer you ongoing, situation specific coherant advice and physical help if need be.
Here are some sovreignity of God verses that keep me from worrying when times get hard:
Gen. 18:14, "Is anything too difficult for the Lord? At the appointed time I will return to you, at this time next year, and Sarah shall have a son."
Psalm 115:3, "But our God is in the heavens; He does whatever He pleases."
Psalm 135:6, "Whatever the Lord pleases, He does, In heaven and in earth, in the seas and in all deeps."
Isaiah 46:10, "Declaring the end from the beginning and from ancient times things which have not been done, saying, ‘My
purpose will be established, and I will accomplish all My good pleasure’;"
Jeremiah 32:27, "Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh; is anything too difficult for Me?"
Daniel 4:35, “And all the inhabitants of the earth are accounted as nothing, but He does according to His will in the host of heaven and among the inhabitants of earth; and no one can ward off His hand Or say to Him, ‘What hast Thou done?’"
Matthew 19:26, "And looking upon them Jesus said to them, "With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
Luke 1:37, "For nothing will be impossible with God."
