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LadyOne

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Hi everyone,
I have been married to my husband for eight years now. Well three years ago we both made the decision to temporarilly separate so I moved back home. Even though we separated we still considered ourselves to be married and behaved accordingly towards each other. A couple years ago he lost his mom and spung into a deep depression. I recently found out that he lost his faith and ventured back into his old ways (before we met). He told me that one night he went out with a group of people and got really drunk in which time he had relations with one of his old classmates and now she is pregnant. He has been begging me to forgive him which I said I would, but I don't think we can get back together after this. He is also begging me to help him because he was really sick and was out of his right mind. Today he asked me to pray with him and send him some words of encouragement. I found it very hard to pray for him. How do I find the strength through this to pray for the person who is responsible for the dagger in my heart?
 
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Powemm

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what a testing .. And a challege coming up against your heart im sure . its a "prime" opportunuty to call on God in all of it ..
Pour out your heart, lean not onto your own understanding and call upon the Lord and His word. . His truth will never stear us wrong. Forgiveness can be easy or hard ., remembering all we have been forgiven for our own missed steps wich put daggers on His heart as well .. becomes a time to walk even closer with Him as we relate with Him in it .. "god? is THIS what your heart felt like in my missguided steps towards you?) really puts our focus in a whole different place. We bwgin ti relatw to Hod inatead of pur problem.. Knowing how we vhallenge God in doing so also reveals an abunfance of His mercy towards us when He could have easily taken us out for it can also soften our heart for the things of God as well as begin walking them out .. ill be praying for you.. Gods bigger than all of it ..blessings
 
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Bluecomet

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Scripture says love your enemies.
 
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jerusalem

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the bible says that couples who separate should do so by mutual consent and only for a period of time so that situations like yours can be avoided. since it has already happened the first thing you should do is realize that a misstep was taken and ask God for forgiveness and then guidance on reparation. it won't be easy i'm sure. things have certainly gone far afield of a temporary separation. i will pray for God to give you both the strength and wisdom needed.
 
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LulaBelle

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CindyBeall.com |

Here is a wonderful blog hat you might find helpful and encouraging. The short story is that this lady's husband cheated on her with many women, while they were both in ministry. He was under the spell of a pornography addiction, and sin is never satisfied, it always is progressive, so when pornography no longer satisfied him, he began having affairs. One of these affairs resulted in a pregnancy. She (Cindy) is an inspiration as to how forgiveness and healing can be found in a hurt marriage, and God CAN and WILL restore...even make it better than it ever was before. Her example of forgiveness and love is incredible, and I know only possible through God's grace. She has developed a friendship with the child's mother, and the child has become a great blessing to her. I know this is only possible because of God. I hope it is an encouragement to you. As hard as it is to pray about/for him...you must. Where else could you go but to our father? He knows your hurt and disappointment, and even anger. So go ahead and talk to him about it.
 
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Lucy68

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How long did you live separately?

If he is truly sorry and wants to repair the marriage put everything you have into it! Take your hurt to Jesus and let Him heal your heart. Don't let resentment take root...it is a weed that is very hard to get rid of once it grows.

Go to church together and build on a mutual relationship with Christ. With Him in the center, everything will work better :).
 
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Biblebob

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When two people marry, it should be for life, but if the two people have not searched out what the Bible tells us about the carnal nature and walking in the flesh, we do not know what causes us to sin. Jesus died that we might be able to understand how Satan works in our life. We are led by our lust and pride. James 1:Jas 1:12-15 KJV
(12) Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.
(13) Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:
(14) But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. (Enticed by Satan!)
(15) Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
The reason that the two of you did not make it the first time was you did not see Satan working in each other. Paul the apostle told us that you would be better off if you remained as him, single, but to avoid forniction, let them marry. But you will have trouble if you marry. 1 Corinthians 7. You must forgive your husband for "your sake". If you do not forgive, your heavenly Father will not forgive you your trespasses. Mark 11:26. You must serperate the demon from your husband. You can hate the demon, but you cannot hate the person. The thief cometh not but to steal, kill, and destroy. John 1010.
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IDEAtor

IDEAtor

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Your letter to everyone has a sound of forgiveness already, even as you feel pain from mentioned situation.
Minister to God before spouse or self. Pray diligently and somehow stay meditating on Scripture.
Any other advice would be poor on my part.

"Lord, clear up the mess, somehow. Amen."
 
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