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I do not intend for this topic to be inappropriate but rather a serious matter that I seek for help from fellow married christians.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years and we have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. Over the past few years, the sex aspect of our marriage has been lacking. I am quite certain this is all on me. My husband has always had a healthy drive and finds me very attractive. I am the one who has gotten worse with time. My husband is a very good man and we share a very special connection, and I do love him very much. But sometimes I wonder if I love him more as a best friend than as a lover... I knew he was "average looking" from the start, but we did have a sexual connection in the beginning. So I know it was there at one point! But it seems as though my attraction to him has and continues to fade with time and it terrified me. I do know that him gaining weight over the years is a reason for my loss of attraction to his body, but shouldn't we still be able to have a healthy sex life?
To be honest everything is working against me...We've struggled with infertility for years so sex quickly became very mundane. After I had our daughter, it only became worse when I suffered through depression. I have now been on medication that is proven to lower libido (I can't get a break!).
While we are quite happy and share wonderful moments as a family...I know in order to keep our marriage as strong as it needs to be...something has got to change in regards to our intimacy. Sometimes I try to convince myself that we'll get by, just so long as he is happy sexually...but I realize that I need it too. I have started having vivid inappropriate dreams that make me feel awful in the morning because I know that I can't just live my life pretending I don't need a good sex life.
So why can't I make one with my husband?! It drives me crazy that I just cannot get myself in the mood. I've even had all of my hormone levels checked and the doctor says I'm healthy.
To be honest...my deepest fears are just that my love for him is fading and my marriage will end in divorce like my parents. Even though everything else in our marriage is great now...will the lack of passion ruin it in the future?
Thank you so much for you help in advance!
My husband and I have been married for 6 years and we have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. Over the past few years, the sex aspect of our marriage has been lacking. I am quite certain this is all on me. My husband has always had a healthy drive and finds me very attractive. I am the one who has gotten worse with time. My husband is a very good man and we share a very special connection, and I do love him very much. But sometimes I wonder if I love him more as a best friend than as a lover... I knew he was "average looking" from the start, but we did have a sexual connection in the beginning. So I know it was there at one point! But it seems as though my attraction to him has and continues to fade with time and it terrified me. I do know that him gaining weight over the years is a reason for my loss of attraction to his body, but shouldn't we still be able to have a healthy sex life?
To be honest everything is working against me...We've struggled with infertility for years so sex quickly became very mundane. After I had our daughter, it only became worse when I suffered through depression. I have now been on medication that is proven to lower libido (I can't get a break!).
While we are quite happy and share wonderful moments as a family...I know in order to keep our marriage as strong as it needs to be...something has got to change in regards to our intimacy. Sometimes I try to convince myself that we'll get by, just so long as he is happy sexually...but I realize that I need it too. I have started having vivid inappropriate dreams that make me feel awful in the morning because I know that I can't just live my life pretending I don't need a good sex life.
So why can't I make one with my husband?! It drives me crazy that I just cannot get myself in the mood. I've even had all of my hormone levels checked and the doctor says I'm healthy.
To be honest...my deepest fears are just that my love for him is fading and my marriage will end in divorce like my parents. Even though everything else in our marriage is great now...will the lack of passion ruin it in the future?
Thank you so much for you help in advance!