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I just opened an account here in hope of finding some advice or maybe just some where to vent. I have been married for a little over 3 years. I would like to share some of my story and maybe receive advice. We got married a couple of months after we met and got pregnant 6 months into our marriage. We always had some kind of disagreement and argued about the smallest things. I have always been the kind of person that hates arguing and would always keep quiet. He has always like s confronting the problem and not in the nicest ways. Shortly after my son was borned problems starting to get worse. Even though he has never hit me, he has gotten in front of my face which made me scared. When out son was 4 months we got kicked out of the apartment because we couldn't keep up with bills while I was on leave. I then felt disappointed at him because I blamed him for not being able to keep up with the household while I was on leave. I tried encouraging him to find another job until I went back to work but he didn't make an effort. I went to leave with my parents and 6 months later I got my own place. We then tried to fix things and allowed him back in. We went to therapy a couple of times but didn't not see major results. He started being aggressive again, saying mean things and getting to my face. At one point I threatened him with the cops to see if he would back off but he told me to do it, that they weren't going to be able to kick him out. I didn't do it because of our son. I felt like that would make him look bad and I didn't want that. He's not the best dad but he's not the worst. That same situation happened a couple of times just a little worse. With everything that has happened I didn't feel the same towards him. I still wanted to work out things for my son but it just felt like the more we tried the worse it got. I felt like he never understood me and that I was always wrong. He recently told me that he is done with this marriage and that he can't leave the apartment because he doesn't make enough money to be able to be on his own. So I asked him to pay at least half of the rent not because I need it but because I wanted to hear what he was going to tell mw. He got upset and said that if I wanted him to stay in his truck he would leave. Of course I told him to stay. I don't know what to do. I have not I included everything but because it would take forever. Please don't think that I want to talknow bad about him. All I want it advice. He's not a bad person it just seems like we can't get along.
I just opened an account here in hope of finding some advice or maybe just some where to vent. I have been married for a little over 3 years. I would like to share some of my story and maybe receive advice. We got married a couple of months after we met and got pregnant 6 months into our marriage. We always had some kind of disagreement and argued about the smallest things. I have always been the kind of person that hates arguing and would always keep quiet. He has always like s confronting the problem and not in the nicest ways. Shortly after my son was borned problems starting to get worse. Even though he has never hit me, he has gotten in front of my face which made me scared. When out son was 4 months we got kicked out of the apartment because we couldn't keep up with bills while I was on leave. I then felt disappointed at him because I blamed him for not being able to keep up with the household while I was on leave. I tried encouraging him to find another job until I went back to work but he didn't make an effort. I went to leave with my parents and 6 months later I got my own place. We then tried to fix things and allowed him back in. We went to therapy a couple of times but didn't not see major results. He started being aggressive again, saying mean things and getting to my face. At one point I threatened him with the cops to see if he would back off but he told me to do it, that they weren't going to be able to kick him out. I didn't do it because of our son. I felt like that would make him look bad and I didn't want that. He's not the best dad but he's not the worst. That same situation happened a couple of times just a little worse. With everything that has happened I didn't feel the same towards him. I still wanted to work out things for my son but it just felt like the more we tried the worse it got. I felt like he never understood me and that I was always wrong. He recently told me that he is done with this marriage and that he can't leave the apartment because he doesn't make enough money to be able to be on his own. So I asked him to pay at least half of the rent not because I need it but because I wanted to hear what he was going to tell mw. He got upset and said that if I wanted him to stay in his truck he would leave. Of course I told him to stay. I don't know what to do. I have not I included everything but because it would take forever. Please don't think that I want to talknow bad about him. All I want it advice. He's not a bad person it just seems like we can't get along.