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Hello! I am new here and have been reading my bible and various christian websites about marriage. I have been married to my husband for 8 years and together 9. We have 2 children 6 and 2.
He left about a month ago and told me that he is tired of trying in our marriage and that since I refuse to change he is leaving. This is the third time he has left me. The first time he had an affair and wanted to be with the other woman. He came back and we did counseling and things were wonderful. Then last summer he told me he wanted a divorce because i was not there for him emotionally during his time away working in another state.
I admit to contributing problems to the marriage but he just bails on me when things get tough and doesn't bother telling me his concerns until he is ready to leave.
I have been devastated. My family is devastated and so is his. We have all been very close. This time I did find out he had reconnected with a high school friend and had been talking to her and once he moved out started hanging out with her. He claims she is not the reason for our break up and says I am blaming the wrong person (I am to blame I guess).
I have been in counseling to help me with my problems and have talked to our pastor and have started going to church and truly believe that with Christ anything is possible.
I love my husband more than anything and want nothing more that for him to come home and be a family again. He says he does not love me anymore but I don't believe that. He married me and his behavior through the past 2 months has been bizarre. Love is a choice and I believe if he would just go to counseling with me go back to church and talk to our pastor and get our marriage back in order we would make it.
I'm so sad and everyone is telling me to just divorce him and move on. I know I will never move on. I love this man and have forgiven him for everything. I am not perfect by any means but I am getting help. I always feel such a strong pull to fight for my family and fight for my husband. I hadn't felt it so strongly until today. I was about to give up but now I am rethinking it.
I have been praying so much and really just want my family back and this time for good and with continued help. Am I being stupid or should I trust myself and fight? We are barely talking to each other except for when he wants to see the kids or financial questions. My husband is a wonderful man but he has lost his way again.
He left about a month ago and told me that he is tired of trying in our marriage and that since I refuse to change he is leaving. This is the third time he has left me. The first time he had an affair and wanted to be with the other woman. He came back and we did counseling and things were wonderful. Then last summer he told me he wanted a divorce because i was not there for him emotionally during his time away working in another state.
I admit to contributing problems to the marriage but he just bails on me when things get tough and doesn't bother telling me his concerns until he is ready to leave.
I have been devastated. My family is devastated and so is his. We have all been very close. This time I did find out he had reconnected with a high school friend and had been talking to her and once he moved out started hanging out with her. He claims she is not the reason for our break up and says I am blaming the wrong person (I am to blame I guess).
I have been in counseling to help me with my problems and have talked to our pastor and have started going to church and truly believe that with Christ anything is possible.
I love my husband more than anything and want nothing more that for him to come home and be a family again. He says he does not love me anymore but I don't believe that. He married me and his behavior through the past 2 months has been bizarre. Love is a choice and I believe if he would just go to counseling with me go back to church and talk to our pastor and get our marriage back in order we would make it.
I'm so sad and everyone is telling me to just divorce him and move on. I know I will never move on. I love this man and have forgiven him for everything. I am not perfect by any means but I am getting help. I always feel such a strong pull to fight for my family and fight for my husband. I hadn't felt it so strongly until today. I was about to give up but now I am rethinking it.
I have been praying so much and really just want my family back and this time for good and with continued help. Am I being stupid or should I trust myself and fight? We are barely talking to each other except for when he wants to see the kids or financial questions. My husband is a wonderful man but he has lost his way again.