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My story I'll make it short just need some advice or something to help out.
Me and my wife of 4 years were in love and we had our fights. Not proud to say it but we hit each other and fought more then we should of. Well coming up on four years she decided to leave me and said I needed help. She left and I went to get some help so that we could be to be together. Well in this process she went and filed a restraining order? I was shocked, like a week gone by we hadn't even seen each other I'd done moved and everything. So I found out it was that she had another man. Someone twice her age. Well I said ok I can handle all this hired a lawyer who advices me to just play it cool and everything will be fine. During the this no contact order she calls, text, comes by because she was worried about me. Short end of the story he was a drunk I moved away she found out life isn't perfect with your affair and I took her back. After a month of living with me she says we should help this guy(the affair) because he is a drunk and he needs it. So I tell her you choose and if he does move in things will change. Well he moves in after I pay both their ways for a month I kick him out because he starts drinking again. After he is gone I'm still done with her. She doesn't understand why. After all this time I've went to therapy to work on me and I'm the calmest person you'll ever meet. After about 3 months of her still hitting and throwing things and me just taking it unlike before when it'd be back and forth I've had enough she won't leave so I make her by getting and restraining order on her. She leaves and for a year she loves me and wants to come back. We never get a divorce though the papers are here and ready to. I told her work on her go to therapy and maybe we can be together. All this time I'm dating she is also, but I'm not having sex or anything with anyone. Well one day she calls and asks if I have, I say no. She says yea I know you haven't you've always been that way. Then tells me she has with 5 people and that she is just trying to fill a void that is empty in her that I've left by not staying with her. I immediately break down and cry. She the women I love has became this..... I'm lost no words to describe it. I've always loved her and find she isn't smart when it comes to love but I don't know what to do. So I tell her to come back. It's been about a week and I seen on her Facebook she had she was in a relationship with someone. One of the people she slept with. I'm upfront and tell her whats this? She says she forgot and that it's nothing. Now a day later she pokes me so I'm happy to see that she changed it when I go and see she didn't and when I ask her about it a day later after confronting her she just says she don't want to hurt him. She isn't going to change it. I'm going through the same thing again it seems?!? I can't keep helping her and being walked on I know I'm stupid but I love her. What to do......
Me and my wife of 4 years were in love and we had our fights. Not proud to say it but we hit each other and fought more then we should of. Well coming up on four years she decided to leave me and said I needed help. She left and I went to get some help so that we could be to be together. Well in this process she went and filed a restraining order? I was shocked, like a week gone by we hadn't even seen each other I'd done moved and everything. So I found out it was that she had another man. Someone twice her age. Well I said ok I can handle all this hired a lawyer who advices me to just play it cool and everything will be fine. During the this no contact order she calls, text, comes by because she was worried about me. Short end of the story he was a drunk I moved away she found out life isn't perfect with your affair and I took her back. After a month of living with me she says we should help this guy(the affair) because he is a drunk and he needs it. So I tell her you choose and if he does move in things will change. Well he moves in after I pay both their ways for a month I kick him out because he starts drinking again. After he is gone I'm still done with her. She doesn't understand why. After all this time I've went to therapy to work on me and I'm the calmest person you'll ever meet. After about 3 months of her still hitting and throwing things and me just taking it unlike before when it'd be back and forth I've had enough she won't leave so I make her by getting and restraining order on her. She leaves and for a year she loves me and wants to come back. We never get a divorce though the papers are here and ready to. I told her work on her go to therapy and maybe we can be together. All this time I'm dating she is also, but I'm not having sex or anything with anyone. Well one day she calls and asks if I have, I say no. She says yea I know you haven't you've always been that way. Then tells me she has with 5 people and that she is just trying to fill a void that is empty in her that I've left by not staying with her. I immediately break down and cry. She the women I love has became this..... I'm lost no words to describe it. I've always loved her and find she isn't smart when it comes to love but I don't know what to do. So I tell her to come back. It's been about a week and I seen on her Facebook she had she was in a relationship with someone. One of the people she slept with. I'm upfront and tell her whats this? She says she forgot and that it's nothing. Now a day later she pokes me so I'm happy to see that she changed it when I go and see she didn't and when I ask her about it a day later after confronting her she just says she don't want to hurt him. She isn't going to change it. I'm going through the same thing again it seems?!? I can't keep helping her and being walked on I know I'm stupid but I love her. What to do......
. You're going through misery now, but God is changing your heart...when our hearts break, He can then put them back together correctly. It's a painful process. 
