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Hello-
First off, I have OCD and it makes things difficult and stressful. Last night, I was reading the Bible and asked how I could better honor my father, who I have a fairly walled off relationship with. Well I got a thought that was go to church with him. God? OCD? Who said it? Do I want to think it's OCD because it was an uncomfortable thought?
A nice gesture no doubt, but the idea has gotten me in a bit of a rut and while I feel calm now, it startled me and I don't want to get into an OCD spiral, therefore, I am attempting not to think about it. Stress and OCD do not mix well, and this has the potential to stress me out. First off, I do not have a church I go to, however, I do have tentative plans to go to a local church with a friend tomorrow. Maybe I can ask him to go at a later date? He may say that we could go to my town church...I have forgiven my town, which I have had a bad history with during high school and a lot of mental pain, but I feel that is an unnecessary step and also unfair and stressful.
My question is based around the fact that I don't even want to go with him. I want to honor him by being respectful, changing my attitude towards him, reaching out in little ways like a conversation at dinner. I know I will never have a complete relationship with my dad because he is emotionally walled off just as I am, and it is difficult and awkward, to be quite frank. I want to learn to love my father and accept him for who he is, but I can see going to church with him as being an hour of unneeded stress following a day of stress thinking about it. I just don't want to put myself in a stressful situation like this when I am finally having a good day. I think this idea seems nice, but the fact that it gave me as much anxiety as it did is not something I want to deal with. Is it bad if I never go to church with him and will disregard this thought as an attempt to spiral me into OCD? Because that is what I am doing to keep myself sane.
First off, I have OCD and it makes things difficult and stressful. Last night, I was reading the Bible and asked how I could better honor my father, who I have a fairly walled off relationship with. Well I got a thought that was go to church with him. God? OCD? Who said it? Do I want to think it's OCD because it was an uncomfortable thought?
A nice gesture no doubt, but the idea has gotten me in a bit of a rut and while I feel calm now, it startled me and I don't want to get into an OCD spiral, therefore, I am attempting not to think about it. Stress and OCD do not mix well, and this has the potential to stress me out. First off, I do not have a church I go to, however, I do have tentative plans to go to a local church with a friend tomorrow. Maybe I can ask him to go at a later date? He may say that we could go to my town church...I have forgiven my town, which I have had a bad history with during high school and a lot of mental pain, but I feel that is an unnecessary step and also unfair and stressful.
My question is based around the fact that I don't even want to go with him. I want to honor him by being respectful, changing my attitude towards him, reaching out in little ways like a conversation at dinner. I know I will never have a complete relationship with my dad because he is emotionally walled off just as I am, and it is difficult and awkward, to be quite frank. I want to learn to love my father and accept him for who he is, but I can see going to church with him as being an hour of unneeded stress following a day of stress thinking about it. I just don't want to put myself in a stressful situation like this when I am finally having a good day. I think this idea seems nice, but the fact that it gave me as much anxiety as it did is not something I want to deal with. Is it bad if I never go to church with him and will disregard this thought as an attempt to spiral me into OCD? Because that is what I am doing to keep myself sane.