Have u read Romans 6. Something you must remember when learning of God's forordination is -- you have been given grace. Grace through faith to work out your salvation. Once God opens your eyes to see Jesus saved you -- the journey has just begun. You have been given a gift from God -- not because you deserve it, but because God chose you because He decided to have grace on you -- that is love.
People are going to spend eternity without God -- that is heartbreaking. We are not to know who they are -- our job is to have God help us live this life and change our hearts -- and tell everyone about how Jesus saves -- through actions and through words. How will they know unless they hear? Remember that.
God is soveriegn and He is just. Romans 8:31-39. And Romans 9.
Something you must remember -- we are saved because of grace -- not because we deserve it -- or will ever deserve it. My heart longs for others to know him -- I must seek God in that and pray. I do believe things happen when we pray -- yes, it may be God's plan. But He is working out our salvation when we pray -- He is doing a work in us when we seek and trust Him. Our learning of God or salvation never ends -- what God begins, He finishes --because he has started something in you.
Hope this encourages u -- feel free to write anytime. I would love to help you see this without developing a hard heart. It was hard for me when I first learned the ways of God -- I am still learning. I still pray for others salvation and for God to search my heart. I am blessed to be saved by God's grace -- I can never take Jesus for granted again.