I'm sorry about your loss. I can say that i have been there. These are some things God has revealed to me. The spirit of anger no matter what the situation is kills, robs and destroys. I'll give you an example when my ex-husband and I were together. God set it up where God was going to bless him with all the equipment he needed to sing with. But because we both argued and was angry we didnt go to church that day and missed out on God's blessing for us.
Another example is did you ever desire a particular part, thing, job, or person. God gave it but because of anger you were angry enough to turn away that blessing and not desire what God already gave you. ANd anger justified it. Saying this is not what i thought i wanted.
That's what the spirit of anger does.
God also showed me anger can turn on a person. That's why people have suicidal thoughts sometimes.
Also, God showed me the spirit of covetousness concerning relationships. God told me it's the reason for so many divorces today.
Covetousness like the bible says is basically idolatry.
Colossians 3:5
Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
Some people covet a way out of their marraige.
1 Corinthians 7:27
Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
Today women cannot go out without the right shoes, the right clothes, can't forget their make up. Men being vain can't stop coveting another's relationship, or life. And God showed me some people don't even realize they are coveting because like most americans like us we are born into it.
Everyone has to have the better home, car, and be likable by others who covet.
When a woman gets upset other women say you deserve better, someone to treat you with respect. Or who has money.
Coveting a better life.
Sometimes we covet our own ways. That if we do not get our way we dont want the relationship anymore.
It's our wants that cause strife, confusion and misdirection.
I am a woman too. This is what God revealed to me about the spirit of covetousness does.
Because the word of God says take no thought for your life and why take thought for the REST.
Luke 12:22-26
22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
23 The life is more than meat, and the body is more than raiment.
24 Consider the ravens: for they neither sow nor reap; which neither have storehouse nor barn; and God feedeth them: how much more are ye better than the fowls?
25 And which of you with taking thought can add to his stature one cubit?
26 If ye then be not able to do that thing which is least, why take ye thought for the rest?
I pray the God of peace and understanding indwell you and keep you whole in him In Jesus name amen..