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Myself: "I personally dislike barbershop quartets because the mundane harmony gives me a headache. [My daughter] has the right to decide what kind of music she likes. You can take her to the concert if you want"
My father: "No she doesn't."
Myself: "Oh? Why do you think that is?"
My father: "Because kids are too stupid to think anything for themselves."
This conversation occurred just this last Sunday and was carried out right in front of my very impressionable 3 year old... thus making me confident from that point that my father's long-standing philosophy (that children should be in bondage to their parent's personal opinions about every aspect of life)... even after their children are married adults. How does one not allow a statement like this- one of hurt and offense for any understanding child- to make a parent refrain from letting their children associate with the people that raised him (and who she knows extremely well and often disagrees with)?
My husband and I spend much of my daughter's life estranged, and I and my daughter lived a small portion of the estrangement living with my parents. Continually I have been exposed to my parent's repressive attitude toward me, my parenting, and my right to be the decider in my child's life. Would not the kind thing for the family be to limit the time spend with two very judgmental and spiritually abusive people such as my parents?
My father: "No she doesn't."
Myself: "Oh? Why do you think that is?"
My father: "Because kids are too stupid to think anything for themselves."
This conversation occurred just this last Sunday and was carried out right in front of my very impressionable 3 year old... thus making me confident from that point that my father's long-standing philosophy (that children should be in bondage to their parent's personal opinions about every aspect of life)... even after their children are married adults. How does one not allow a statement like this- one of hurt and offense for any understanding child- to make a parent refrain from letting their children associate with the people that raised him (and who she knows extremely well and often disagrees with)?
My husband and I spend much of my daughter's life estranged, and I and my daughter lived a small portion of the estrangement living with my parents. Continually I have been exposed to my parent's repressive attitude toward me, my parenting, and my right to be the decider in my child's life. Would not the kind thing for the family be to limit the time spend with two very judgmental and spiritually abusive people such as my parents?