Hello everyone,
When the topic of Jesus' teaching on marriage and divorce come up, I always have the same questions and I'm interested in your thoughts. I like to ask because I learn from what others post and there are always Scriptures brought up that I've either overlooked or forgotten.
I am referring specifically to the teaching that in the case of divorce (unless the cause was adultery), the divorced person can never remarry or else they are committing adultery themselves.
1. Does that mean all currently remarried people should divorce their spouses and live as singles for the rest of their lives? For example, if your mother or father is remarried, should they immediately divorce your stepdad/stepmom?
2. Under this teaching, if you or someone else remaries, you are committing adultery and therefore, living in sin/willfully disobeying God. Does this mean you and/or the remarried people you know (such as your parents) will go to hell when they die?
3. If you know someone who is divorced and planning to remarry (such as your mom or dad), should you tell them they are not allowed to remarry?
These are things I think about for myself as well. I'm a bit of an oddball, the only divorced person in a family of long-married people, including my younger siblings. I wonder to myself, If my parents had divorced, would I have enough courage to tell them that they can't remarry?
And I think to myself as well, if I remarry, and God sees it as adultery, would I automatically go to hell when I die? My husband did have a girlfriend but I have no clear proof that they had an intimate relationship during that time (I never did get the full story--but assumedly, they liked each other while we were married and he left so that they could take their relationship further) so I am assuming that I would be classified as "Remarry=Adulterer."
I've heard plenty of sermons about this topic, but no one's ever given me clear answers. If Remarriage=Adultery=Sin=Loss of Salvation, I often wonder why I've never heard a sermon that says remarried people need to divorce now and live single or else they will go to hell. Is it because no one has the courage to say so?
I suppose that if my choices are Remarrying vs. Going to Hell, I would have to choose C--Feeling like I'm living in hell from loneliness, but trying my best to obey God's will and hopefully actually avoiding the real hell. And I wonder, when I talk to other divorced people, should I be telling them the same thing? ("Don't remarry or you'll go to hell!")
As I said, I'm interested in your thoughts and Scriptures that come to mind. Thanks in advance!
When the topic of Jesus' teaching on marriage and divorce come up, I always have the same questions and I'm interested in your thoughts. I like to ask because I learn from what others post and there are always Scriptures brought up that I've either overlooked or forgotten.
I am referring specifically to the teaching that in the case of divorce (unless the cause was adultery), the divorced person can never remarry or else they are committing adultery themselves.
1. Does that mean all currently remarried people should divorce their spouses and live as singles for the rest of their lives? For example, if your mother or father is remarried, should they immediately divorce your stepdad/stepmom?
2. Under this teaching, if you or someone else remaries, you are committing adultery and therefore, living in sin/willfully disobeying God. Does this mean you and/or the remarried people you know (such as your parents) will go to hell when they die?
3. If you know someone who is divorced and planning to remarry (such as your mom or dad), should you tell them they are not allowed to remarry?
These are things I think about for myself as well. I'm a bit of an oddball, the only divorced person in a family of long-married people, including my younger siblings. I wonder to myself, If my parents had divorced, would I have enough courage to tell them that they can't remarry?
And I think to myself as well, if I remarry, and God sees it as adultery, would I automatically go to hell when I die? My husband did have a girlfriend but I have no clear proof that they had an intimate relationship during that time (I never did get the full story--but assumedly, they liked each other while we were married and he left so that they could take their relationship further) so I am assuming that I would be classified as "Remarry=Adulterer."
I've heard plenty of sermons about this topic, but no one's ever given me clear answers. If Remarriage=Adultery=Sin=Loss of Salvation, I often wonder why I've never heard a sermon that says remarried people need to divorce now and live single or else they will go to hell. Is it because no one has the courage to say so?
I suppose that if my choices are Remarrying vs. Going to Hell, I would have to choose C--Feeling like I'm living in hell from loneliness, but trying my best to obey God's will and hopefully actually avoiding the real hell. And I wonder, when I talk to other divorced people, should I be telling them the same thing? ("Don't remarry or you'll go to hell!")
As I said, I'm interested in your thoughts and Scriptures that come to mind. Thanks in advance!