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Recently, I made the mistake of getting mixed up with a female who already has a boyfriend. I had ignored all the warning signs that I received because I was following the lust of my flesh instead of the leading of my spirit.
I asked this beautiful girl from work for her number after only working at this place for a week and hardly seeing her. She asked me "Do you even know my name?" I said her name and she wrote down her number as she told me she was pleasantly surprised. I told her that I was intrigued and wanted to get to know her. Looking back, I suppose this was my first mistake, being that I asked a girl that I hardly knew for her phone number.
We spent the next week texting back and forth and calling one another on our breaks, nothing seemed out of the ordinary. Shortly after, I noticed the first RED FLAG that this girl might have a boyfriend:
- She rarely texted me outside of work.
Now I know that this is not grounds to automatically assume that somebody is taken. BUT it is a
RED FLAG.
From there, I was curious as to why she wouldn't text me while she wasn't at work, so I asked. She told me that she rarely carried her phone with her and that her only phone charger was in her car. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and let it go. I asked her if she wanted to go out Friday and she said yes.
On Friday we talked and it sounded like she was really excited to hang out with me. I texted her after work and didn't get a response. I called and didn't get an answer. Finally, after a weekend not hearing from her, she calls me on Sunday and asks if I want to do something Monday night.
In hindsight this should have occured to me as a RED FLAG:
- Setting a date for a weekend night and not being able to get ahold of her over the weekend. Then she gets ahold of you and wants to get together on a weekday.
The next day after work I call her and ask where her place is so I can pick her up for our date. The thing is, she didn't want me knowing where she lived. This occured immediately as a RED FLAG:
- She doesn't want you to know where she lives.
Once again I brushed it off and moved on. So we met up at a local plaza, did some shopping and went to see a movie. The date was great, probably the best one I have ever been on. By the way she was smiling I could see that she had enjoyed herself too. Then she told me that she didn't want anybody knowing that we were seeing each other; another RED FLAG:
- She wants to keep your dating a secret.
That night I had a dream that I was with this girl again. In the dream she kissed me and told me she didn't like me. I am a firm believer that God speaks to people in dreams, so for me, this is another RED FLAG:
- You have a dream of warning from God about the girl.
We went on texting and seeing each other at work, while trying to keep things on the downlow. I usually called her after work and didn't get an answer. Sometimes, when she actually did answer or call me back, we would be in the middle talking and she would suddenly have to go. Then other times she wouldn't even have her phone on. I was starting to notice a trend here, and it is another RED FLAG scenario:
- She doesn't answer or ignores your phone calls.
- She suddenly has hang up and doesn't call you back.
- She has her phone off around the time you usually call.
So another week of talking, a second date, and weekend of silence went by. Then one day, A couple of guys I started with at work, who knew I asked for her number, asked me how things were going. I told them that we rarely talked and met together outside of work. A couple of other guys who had spent close to a year working with her chimed in and said "Thats cuz she's got a boyfriend bro!"
I confronted her about it, got the truth out of her, and well....we don't talk anymore. Instead of being lead by the spirit and listening to the signs God was giving me. I was blindly lead by lust into a situation that I would never knowingly get myself into.
I asked this beautiful girl from work for her number after only working at this place for a week and hardly seeing her. She asked me "Do you even know my name?" I said her name and she wrote down her number as she told me she was pleasantly surprised. I told her that I was intrigued and wanted to get to know her. Looking back, I suppose this was my first mistake, being that I asked a girl that I hardly knew for her phone number.
We spent the next week texting back and forth and calling one another on our breaks, nothing seemed out of the ordinary. Shortly after, I noticed the first RED FLAG that this girl might have a boyfriend:
- She rarely texted me outside of work.
Now I know that this is not grounds to automatically assume that somebody is taken. BUT it is a
RED FLAG.
From there, I was curious as to why she wouldn't text me while she wasn't at work, so I asked. She told me that she rarely carried her phone with her and that her only phone charger was in her car. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and let it go. I asked her if she wanted to go out Friday and she said yes.
On Friday we talked and it sounded like she was really excited to hang out with me. I texted her after work and didn't get a response. I called and didn't get an answer. Finally, after a weekend not hearing from her, she calls me on Sunday and asks if I want to do something Monday night.
In hindsight this should have occured to me as a RED FLAG:
- Setting a date for a weekend night and not being able to get ahold of her over the weekend. Then she gets ahold of you and wants to get together on a weekday.
The next day after work I call her and ask where her place is so I can pick her up for our date. The thing is, she didn't want me knowing where she lived. This occured immediately as a RED FLAG:
- She doesn't want you to know where she lives.
Once again I brushed it off and moved on. So we met up at a local plaza, did some shopping and went to see a movie. The date was great, probably the best one I have ever been on. By the way she was smiling I could see that she had enjoyed herself too. Then she told me that she didn't want anybody knowing that we were seeing each other; another RED FLAG:
- She wants to keep your dating a secret.
That night I had a dream that I was with this girl again. In the dream she kissed me and told me she didn't like me. I am a firm believer that God speaks to people in dreams, so for me, this is another RED FLAG:
- You have a dream of warning from God about the girl.
We went on texting and seeing each other at work, while trying to keep things on the downlow. I usually called her after work and didn't get an answer. Sometimes, when she actually did answer or call me back, we would be in the middle talking and she would suddenly have to go. Then other times she wouldn't even have her phone on. I was starting to notice a trend here, and it is another RED FLAG scenario:
- She doesn't answer or ignores your phone calls.
- She suddenly has hang up and doesn't call you back.
- She has her phone off around the time you usually call.
So another week of talking, a second date, and weekend of silence went by. Then one day, A couple of guys I started with at work, who knew I asked for her number, asked me how things were going. I told them that we rarely talked and met together outside of work. A couple of other guys who had spent close to a year working with her chimed in and said "Thats cuz she's got a boyfriend bro!"
I confronted her about it, got the truth out of her, and well....we don't talk anymore. Instead of being lead by the spirit and listening to the signs God was giving me. I was blindly lead by lust into a situation that I would never knowingly get myself into.
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