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My first marriage, I got married eighteen and pregant. He cheated on me to the point that he had a child with another women while I was caring our second child plus he had a bad drug problem. That marriage lasted five years.
My second husband I married for all the wrong reasons.....Security. I thought that I would adventually fall in love with him because he was a good person but after our daughter was born, he changed. He begin to be, what I felt was, mentally abusive towards me and two sons from the previous marriage. I walked away from that marriage after eight years.
Three weeks after leaving husband number two, I met husband number three. We have been together for almost twenty years now. We have had alot of ups and downs. He brought two children to the marriage plus with my three. His ex wife moved out of state with his two kids shortly after we were married. The oldest was returned to us at fifteen with a drug, alcohol and sexual problems. The second, also was returned to us at the same age with the same problems a few years later. She filled their heads with so much hate, telling them that their father was this horrible person and that he didn't love them. They are both so messed up and now she won't have anything to do with them. My husband carries guilt for not being a perfect father and lets his kids walk all over him and in turn, me also.
The oldest, Mary, is a very mean and hateful person. She had wanted to go to a party shortly after coming to live with us. We told her no, so she called the cops on us and told them that he was beating her. He came very close to being arrested. This is just one example of what kind of person she is. I could tell many, many stories but I'm not writing a book.
She ended up getting pregant but never married the father of that baby. I spent many nights and days taking care of this child while she was out strip dancing and partying and anything but being a good mother. We tried to take the child away from her but she fled the state with it.
She returns a few years later, both beaten and bruised. My husband lets her stay for awhile but she quickly mets this guy that she ends up marrying. They have two kids together and move back to his home state. He is just as bad a person as she is and the life of those three little children is hell. That state tries to take the kids away from her also, so agian, she fleas. She returns a few months later for the holidays to see his family and she gets shot. Long story short, she had gotten involved in so many bad things and pissed the wrong person off and they shot her. Right in the head. Left her diabled. She should have died. Her husband left her. The state finally took the oldest child and returned her to her father, who is a great dad and good person. The husband gets to two children from their marriage. She now has no one and no where to go.
My husband begged me to let her come stay with us until she can get though her treatments and get on with her life. Surely she has changed her ways.......... I agree but temperarily. That was two years ago. She keeps my house in a total uproar all the time. She loves creating drama. She still is using drugs, there just Rx's now. She refuses to do anything that will improve her life and we are completely supporting her. She gets a few hundred dallors a month from ssi but it is not nearly enough to live on. She has built a wedge between my husband to the point that I am ready to throw in the towel and call it quits. He now doesn't want her to EVER leave us and wants me to just take care of her for the rest of her life. WE also have his cousin living with us and his mother. I take care of them all and work full time.
I know that marrige is suppose to be threw the good times and the bad, in sickness and health........but when do you have to say I have had enough. He had an affair a year ago and I still am having issues with trust/telling the truth with him. WE still have not gotten past that issue. I am a christain but he is not and is not willing to even consider the christain faith. I think the only reason he is still here is because he's afraid of losing his house and toys.
When do you throw the towel in???
My second husband I married for all the wrong reasons.....Security. I thought that I would adventually fall in love with him because he was a good person but after our daughter was born, he changed. He begin to be, what I felt was, mentally abusive towards me and two sons from the previous marriage. I walked away from that marriage after eight years.
Three weeks after leaving husband number two, I met husband number three. We have been together for almost twenty years now. We have had alot of ups and downs. He brought two children to the marriage plus with my three. His ex wife moved out of state with his two kids shortly after we were married. The oldest was returned to us at fifteen with a drug, alcohol and sexual problems. The second, also was returned to us at the same age with the same problems a few years later. She filled their heads with so much hate, telling them that their father was this horrible person and that he didn't love them. They are both so messed up and now she won't have anything to do with them. My husband carries guilt for not being a perfect father and lets his kids walk all over him and in turn, me also.
The oldest, Mary, is a very mean and hateful person. She had wanted to go to a party shortly after coming to live with us. We told her no, so she called the cops on us and told them that he was beating her. He came very close to being arrested. This is just one example of what kind of person she is. I could tell many, many stories but I'm not writing a book.
She ended up getting pregant but never married the father of that baby. I spent many nights and days taking care of this child while she was out strip dancing and partying and anything but being a good mother. We tried to take the child away from her but she fled the state with it.
She returns a few years later, both beaten and bruised. My husband lets her stay for awhile but she quickly mets this guy that she ends up marrying. They have two kids together and move back to his home state. He is just as bad a person as she is and the life of those three little children is hell. That state tries to take the kids away from her also, so agian, she fleas. She returns a few months later for the holidays to see his family and she gets shot. Long story short, she had gotten involved in so many bad things and pissed the wrong person off and they shot her. Right in the head. Left her diabled. She should have died. Her husband left her. The state finally took the oldest child and returned her to her father, who is a great dad and good person. The husband gets to two children from their marriage. She now has no one and no where to go.
My husband begged me to let her come stay with us until she can get though her treatments and get on with her life. Surely she has changed her ways.......... I agree but temperarily. That was two years ago. She keeps my house in a total uproar all the time. She loves creating drama. She still is using drugs, there just Rx's now. She refuses to do anything that will improve her life and we are completely supporting her. She gets a few hundred dallors a month from ssi but it is not nearly enough to live on. She has built a wedge between my husband to the point that I am ready to throw in the towel and call it quits. He now doesn't want her to EVER leave us and wants me to just take care of her for the rest of her life. WE also have his cousin living with us and his mother. I take care of them all and work full time.
I know that marrige is suppose to be threw the good times and the bad, in sickness and health........but when do you have to say I have had enough. He had an affair a year ago and I still am having issues with trust/telling the truth with him. WE still have not gotten past that issue. I am a christain but he is not and is not willing to even consider the christain faith. I think the only reason he is still here is because he's afraid of losing his house and toys.
When do you throw the towel in???
