Im saved,but my husband is not...I wasn't saved before we got married. Recently my husband has been making comments saying..."you have changed",your not the person I married". I knew exactly what he was talking about,but I didn't say anything. Then the next day he says it again..Now I'm a little irritated and I asked him how I have changed and he can't come up with one thing,no specifics other than I'm a "super Christian". Whatever that means...so I think it was yesterday that he started saying the same things and saying I wasn't fun anymore...which kinda hurt my feelings,but whatever...who else goes through this?? And now what? Out of nowhere it feels like my husband is my enemy and is against me...
Unevenly yoked?
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I just want to encourage you to keep your eyes on Jesus. If you are feeling some attack verbally from your husband, just keep walking in the fruits of the spirit.. love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness & self control. I know this is easier said than done at times, but Jesus will equip you with His word, & give you wisdom on how to walk in peace. We are called to be "peacemakers" & to avoid strife & division. Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger...
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What fun have you stopped doing? Kidding around? Jokes?
Try to keep what you had with him before you became a Christian.
It's important you don't just stop doing or being what you were, but that you become more than what you were before. More happy. More supportive. More kind. Etc.
Not saying it's easy.
He's probably a bit worried that he's lost some of the woman he married. He knows religion can change a person. I'm sure he will see Christ has made you better wife.
Will look for your response.
Before I came to Christ I was critical,my way or no way attitude,quick tempered,prideful,high maintenance,not an easy going personality...very opinionated...I can go on and on...my relationship with my husband has been better since I been saved..and yes I am still fun! I think he said that because h just don't like Christians. He's really offended by them. There was a time when I was quietly reading my bible to myself and it was almost like he couldn't stand it...
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Glad you responded.
Okay. So your relationship is better. I thought it had changed toward more negative. That's my misunderstanding.
Glad it is better.
He hates Christians? If you know why, in time you can address it directly.
So many variables in a relationship and this response is not thorough, it can't be. Just as your posts can't be thorough.
Imagine. Your husband is against Christianity/Christians. But you are a Christian!
SHOW him what a Christian really is. SHOW. For now, don't defend your beliefs. If he asks, of course do. If you don't know the answer, say so. Tell you don't have an answer, but you will study and pray about it.
Review 1 Peter 2:1-3.
You know, if I felt the way your husband did, I wouldn't want my wife reading the Bible; consequently, I wouldn't want to see her read it.
Don't know, but try reading the Bible "in your closet." Late at night, when he's asleep. When he's not home. In fact, plan to read it when you know he won't see you. Pray before that time arrives. Pray that you can focus on what you will be reading. Then choose the passages you want to read. This will create an atmosphere or sense that you're not being sneaky, but rather you are spending time in thought and meditation upon the word.
I commend you. Continue with your love toward God and your husband. The more positive you are, then greater is the likelihood that he will respond favorably toward your beliefs. In the future invite him to read the Bible with you. Maybe talk to you about the Bible. Pray with you. I am not suggesting you haven't done these things.
You have a big responsibility. Be patient. You will make mistakes, but don't let them stop you. Your husband might capitalize on your shortcomings and mistakes. Let him. Be quite. Then later, a soft answer to him. You will make mistakes. The devil is hoping you do.
The Lord also knows you will make mistakes. But He's hoping you will learn and grow from those mistakes.
Well, I hope this helps and that it's not all a bunch of rambling.
Okay. So your relationship is better. I thought it had changed toward more negative. That's my misunderstanding.
Glad it is better.
He hates Christians? If you know why, in time you can address it directly.
So many variables in a relationship and this response is not thorough, it can't be. Just as your posts can't be thorough.
Imagine. Your husband is against Christianity/Christians. But you are a Christian!
SHOW him what a Christian really is. SHOW. For now, don't defend your beliefs. If he asks, of course do. If you don't know the answer, say so. Tell you don't have an answer, but you will study and pray about it.
Review 1 Peter 2:1-3.
You know, if I felt the way your husband did, I wouldn't want my wife reading the Bible; consequently, I wouldn't want to see her read it.
Don't know, but try reading the Bible "in your closet." Late at night, when he's asleep. When he's not home. In fact, plan to read it when you know he won't see you. Pray before that time arrives. Pray that you can focus on what you will be reading. Then choose the passages you want to read. This will create an atmosphere or sense that you're not being sneaky, but rather you are spending time in thought and meditation upon the word.
I commend you. Continue with your love toward God and your husband. The more positive you are, then greater is the likelihood that he will respond favorably toward your beliefs. In the future invite him to read the Bible with you. Maybe talk to you about the Bible. Pray with you. I am not suggesting you haven't done these things.
You have a big responsibility. Be patient. You will make mistakes, but don't let them stop you. Your husband might capitalize on your shortcomings and mistakes. Let him. Be quite. Then later, a soft answer to him. You will make mistakes. The devil is hoping you do.
The Lord also knows you will make mistakes. But He's hoping you will learn and grow from those mistakes.
Well, I hope this helps and that it's not all a bunch of rambling.