Posted this on my facebook and got into a conversation:
TM: Some of the clothes I've seen girls wear in church is scandalous! I honestly think no one has ever sat them down and said, "look, that's inappropriate."
RushBreeze: Its a sad truth.
Society and media teach women that you should use your body to get what you want, by dressing a certain way or moving in a certain way. No one bothers to sit down with these girls and say, "Hey, you know what? As a Christian woman you need to be held to a higher standard. You need to be conscious of how your body effects others."
Working at camp I remember distinctly the directors wife saying something to the idea of "When you are wearing something revealing, imagine that some man is touching every inch of exposed skin, cause that is what you are inviting them to do in their minds." Not that I've ever been a scanty dresser, but it really spoke to me.
Men obviously have to be responsible for their own thoughts, but why would we deliberately go about making their struggle any harder?
Directors Wife:Wow, I'm impressed that you remember that, Michie. You know, I always feel that this sort of message would come across better from a young, slim beautiful young lady - than from an old, frumpy overweight lady. I wonder if the younger ladies who want to show off as much skin as they can just think, "She only thinks that I should dress more modestly because she doesn't have my body!" You know? We have to say it, regardless, when it's appropriate to do so - but I do wish more young ladies would stand up for modesty. And I also recognize that it's more difficult for them to say such a thing to someone who is their peer.
RushBreeze: I totally understand what your saying. That's why I think messages like this, where its young men who are willing to step to the plate and say, "You know what, this is how your actions directly impact the people around you, and it makes it really hard for me as a Christian man to keep my thoughts pure when I'm being constantly bombarded by sexual messages and scantily clad women. The last place I need to be encountering this is Church and other Christian environments."
Camp is/was one of the biggest deciding factors in what I wear. I think, is this something I would be ashamed to wear at camp? If so, why am I wearing it? My mom has been pretty good about making sure I am dressing modestly, but you were able to articulate why its important.
Also you are beautiful!
