Have you read EmptyMailbag's heartbreaking story. You described what happened to his wife when she turned to another man rather than another woman. And she got fully taken advantage of by allowing herself to be emotionally intimate. Just think how much needless pain was caused by an angry and hurt wife who vindicated her feelings by not just praying,seeking wise counsell and confrontiing her husband. And not just the wives are falling, but husbands are playing this dangerous and hurtful practice of seeking emotional intimacy from the opposite sex. I believe many of these individuals vindicate their feelings when feeling rejected. I have played the guilty party in seeking consolement from someone else. I told my wife what I did and we talked about why I did such a hurtful thing.I have learned to be open to my wife and not keep my feelings locked up. Reading my bible, praying and being honest with my wife has helped me be emotionally intimate with her. __ Larry.