I know, I am OLD! Some societies say old women can be heard. So here goes: I was fifteen in 1940, and honestly our society then had just as many brains as it does now. We were quite civilized. But how we looked at sex was much, much different.
When boys asked for it, they were showing you they didn’t care for you that much. Those who really cared respected you, respected sex, and wanted it a part of marriage. Girls who gave out were looked down on. Some because they didn’t think they were worthwhile,some because they just didn’t give a dam for much of anything. Sometimes feelings got away from a couple,but they usually did everything they could to repair it.
Now, there is a large group of people who do not regard boyfriend and sex as the same, because of God. God points to a way to live that God says works the best for our happiness. He is usually right.
It is true that I haven’t experienced sex without marriage, but I do know that there is a spiritual dimension then, a complete commitment to each other that I am sure is not there without it. When God created us, God instilled in us sexual desire but had it complicated with many other things, such as making two into one, and giving it spiritual symbolism. To accept it on only the physical terms takes most of it away. They say love is enough, but love without commitment enough to put it on the dotted line is empty.
Even in our age, when obeying God means nothing to most people, there are men who date without sex. There really are Godly men, or men who respect Godly women.
To me, these things seem just common facts. It seems to me that if your boyfriend doesn’tget it, then he is acting like a jerk and you are well rid of him.
Perhaps that means that in todays world without God in control of people, Godly women sometimes must live alone. That is better than choosing to live only in this life, without any eternity. God's way is for milk and honey, abundance, peace, love, and that for eternity.