I am divorced from an abusive man. He did not cheat on me but he nearly destroyed my mind and spiritual walk, I had to get away from him. I have been divorced 10 yrs. I am lonely and want to find a good Christian man to marry. I found one but he says its not biblical to remarry if my husband is not dead. He also divorced his wife. He feels its wrong to remarry but he said we can be close friends with no sex and no marriage. Be inlove and commited but not marry. Does that make sense? How can one be inlove and not be married to have intimacy?
Was your husband a believer in Jesus Christ? Paul has this to say if your husband never was a believer in Jesus Christ.
1 Corinthians 7:[SUP]12 [/SUP]But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.[SUP]13 [/SUP]And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.[SUP]14 [/SUP]For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.[SUP]15 [/SUP]But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.[SUP]16 [/SUP]For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?[SUP]17 [/SUP]But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
Then you would have to ask that Christian man that got a divorced if his wife was never a believer in Jesus Christ, because if she was a believer..or if your abusive husband was a believer... then you cannot marry him.
Paul would say this then.
1 Corinthians 7:[SUP]10 [/SUP]And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:[SUP]11 [/SUP]But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
Incidentally, just to be clear, there is to be no sex before marriage because that is a work of the flesh called fornication.
1 Corinthians 6:[SUP]15 [/SUP]Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.[SUP]16 [/SUP]What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.[SUP]17 [/SUP]But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.[SUP]18 [/SUP]Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.[SUP]19 [/SUP]What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?[SUP]20 [/SUP]For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
A lot of believers find themselves in a situation where they cannot marry even for the first time, let alone marry again, but in those times, is what we need Jesus for to place our minds on other good things and give up the life on earth to have a family when being with christian brothers & sister doing the will of God is the family to enjoy because that is the way it will be in Heaven.
But lean on the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal Good Shepherd to lead you in the way you should go and to give you a peace and contentment to carry through this life should it be that you find yourself without a spouse.
Psalm 23:1 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.[SUP]2 [/SUP]He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.[SUP]3 [/SUP]He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.[SUP]4 [/SUP]Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.[SUP]5 [/SUP]Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.[SUP]6 [/SUP]Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.
1 Timothy 6:[SUP]6 [/SUP]But godliness with contentment is great gain.[SUP]7 [/SUP]For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.[SUP]8 [/SUP]And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.
1 Peter 5:[SUP]6 [/SUP]Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:[SUP]7 [/SUP]Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.[SUP]8 [/SUP]Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:[SUP]9 [/SUP]Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.[SUP]10 [/SUP]But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.[SUP]11 [/SUP]To him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.
