My brother was favoured because he had a minor birth defect. Very minor! But it was always "poor George!" We have to give him something extra, because you and your sister have so much - Not talking money, but being good in school, athletic and having lots of friends.
Except the problem was, some boys don't do well in school when they are young. Which was my brother. He actually improved a lot in high school, but my parents always made allowances for him. He has 7 years post secondary education, but never managed to keep a job, because he didn't like being told areas to improve and not being favoured.
To make a long story short, they favoured him so much he ended up with a personality disorder, (dependent/narcissistic/borderline) and is a totally damaged human being. Not because he didn't have enough good things happening for him, but because he was babied to death, and overprotected, right into adulthood and even today. He lives in my mother's basement, and if you want a better description, just think, troll under the bridge.
So when I became a mother, I put aside jealousy, when I realized being favoured had basically ruined his life. I raised my children more or less the same as each other. They are all pretty healthy, happy people. We love our grandchildren to death. We did move closer to one pair than the others. But it was also where we wanted to live! So we talk on Skype daily, and drive the 14 hour round trip at least once a month to see them. The ones that are local, we put a lot of time into to, even though my DIL is a bit protective of the kids, we do get to babysit and play with them. She is a stay at home mom, which might be the reason, but it is not hurting the kids.
So always remember, showing favoritism is one of the worst things you can do for someone because it corrupts the soul. Be happy you are not the one being favoured, and thank God for all the good things he has done for you.
Except the problem was, some boys don't do well in school when they are young. Which was my brother. He actually improved a lot in high school, but my parents always made allowances for him. He has 7 years post secondary education, but never managed to keep a job, because he didn't like being told areas to improve and not being favoured.
To make a long story short, they favoured him so much he ended up with a personality disorder, (dependent/narcissistic/borderline) and is a totally damaged human being. Not because he didn't have enough good things happening for him, but because he was babied to death, and overprotected, right into adulthood and even today. He lives in my mother's basement, and if you want a better description, just think, troll under the bridge.
So when I became a mother, I put aside jealousy, when I realized being favoured had basically ruined his life. I raised my children more or less the same as each other. They are all pretty healthy, happy people. We love our grandchildren to death. We did move closer to one pair than the others. But it was also where we wanted to live! So we talk on Skype daily, and drive the 14 hour round trip at least once a month to see them. The ones that are local, we put a lot of time into to, even though my DIL is a bit protective of the kids, we do get to babysit and play with them. She is a stay at home mom, which might be the reason, but it is not hurting the kids.
So always remember, showing favoritism is one of the worst things you can do for someone because it corrupts the soul. Be happy you are not the one being favoured, and thank God for all the good things he has done for you.
