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Hi everyone, I would love to hear how you would handle this. Don't hold anything back!
My my son is unemployed and doing work in my house the last 11 weeks. The last 9 weeks he has been working a part time job as well, from 1-6, 7, 8 or 9 PM, so he's only 'able' to work Saturdays. I just learned that today is his last day on that part time job.
He has done all the heavy painting in the house and finished laying the vinyl flooring in the baths and kitchen last weekend. He did a great job, though he's never done vinyl flooring before and very little painting. However he was not happy in this work and admits it's because he is depressed and unmotivated. Which I can see and have been praying for him, of course.
When we started, I paid his rent the first month and am buying his groceries and electronic cigarette supplies for three months, and paid 2 utility bills if his. I also am paying his cell and corresponding data bill every month for a year since he's been unemployed. All together probably about $1,600. Wow I never added it up. But he would take less, would do it for free even. It's just hard for him over here to do it. Last Saturday he didn't get here until 3. Some weekends he hasn't come at all.
My son has a tiny bit of experience laying laminate floors, and is capable of teaching himself to do a good job but I don't know if he's up for the huge job (1200 sq ft plus closets) and I may be setting him up for failure. He's a hard worker. This is the job he was looking forward to. But he's not easily self-directed. Plus he has an addiction to a phone game.
We talked about getting us some help doing the laminate, so a professional floor guy is scheduled to take over and give my son $10/hour to work for him. My son is so angry/hurt that I would put someone else be in charge and tell him what to do! He said it's easy work that he is capable of doing himself. My son said he won't work with this professional. He asked me to get someone who can ''help" him and that would be okay. He wants to be in charge and, I think, be the ONE who does the job. He does have authority issues, it's true.
Giving my son an opportunity to succeed (this time with timeline expectations) would be great. I've been living on subfloor for 11 weeks and have family coming in 6 weeks for a big graduation so yah I'm anxious to get done, but not sure how to get there.
I am grateful my son told me today how he feels about the professional coming but am concerned he would give up $10/hour wage. I'm not going to give my son a professional wage to do the job.
If you've read this far...tell me your insight/opinion/advice? I welcome it all.
My my son is unemployed and doing work in my house the last 11 weeks. The last 9 weeks he has been working a part time job as well, from 1-6, 7, 8 or 9 PM, so he's only 'able' to work Saturdays. I just learned that today is his last day on that part time job.
He has done all the heavy painting in the house and finished laying the vinyl flooring in the baths and kitchen last weekend. He did a great job, though he's never done vinyl flooring before and very little painting. However he was not happy in this work and admits it's because he is depressed and unmotivated. Which I can see and have been praying for him, of course.
When we started, I paid his rent the first month and am buying his groceries and electronic cigarette supplies for three months, and paid 2 utility bills if his. I also am paying his cell and corresponding data bill every month for a year since he's been unemployed. All together probably about $1,600. Wow I never added it up. But he would take less, would do it for free even. It's just hard for him over here to do it. Last Saturday he didn't get here until 3. Some weekends he hasn't come at all.
My son has a tiny bit of experience laying laminate floors, and is capable of teaching himself to do a good job but I don't know if he's up for the huge job (1200 sq ft plus closets) and I may be setting him up for failure. He's a hard worker. This is the job he was looking forward to. But he's not easily self-directed. Plus he has an addiction to a phone game.
We talked about getting us some help doing the laminate, so a professional floor guy is scheduled to take over and give my son $10/hour to work for him. My son is so angry/hurt that I would put someone else be in charge and tell him what to do! He said it's easy work that he is capable of doing himself. My son said he won't work with this professional. He asked me to get someone who can ''help" him and that would be okay. He wants to be in charge and, I think, be the ONE who does the job. He does have authority issues, it's true.
Giving my son an opportunity to succeed (this time with timeline expectations) would be great. I've been living on subfloor for 11 weeks and have family coming in 6 weeks for a big graduation so yah I'm anxious to get done, but not sure how to get there.
I am grateful my son told me today how he feels about the professional coming but am concerned he would give up $10/hour wage. I'm not going to give my son a professional wage to do the job.
If you've read this far...tell me your insight/opinion/advice? I welcome it all.
