Wife's been having an affair.

[VioletReigns]

[FONT=Helvetica Neue, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]read the book of Hosea. Although you have the right to divorce, that don't mean that god wants you to divorce her. I read Hosea over and over and finally realize that i was a Gomer not my wife. I was also forgiven as we should forgive our wives. [/FONT]

[FONT=Helvetica Neue, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]For me and my wifex, i could not save the marriage. Some people can not be helped. I often wonder if i could have changed her by whipping her butt. Dont do that...

peace
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You need to read the story of Samson in the book of Judges. Did you know that it was not his hair that gave Samson strength but the Holy Spirit of God? Do you know Samson took revenge with God's blessing and took down an entire arena killing more people in that one incident then all the people he killed in his life? Do you know this same Holy Spirit was what moved on the Apostle Paul when Elymas the sorcerer was struck blind for trying to interfere with Paul's preaching? And the same Holy Spirit that moved upon the Prophet Elisha when a group of young men mocked him with contempt? Elisha cursed them in the name of the Lord and suddenly 2 female bears attacked and killed like 42 of those guys! Did you read those stories, bro seekingg?

Because when you suggest such things as "whipping her butt" (regarding your ex wife) I don't take too kindly to that, not even in joking. That doesn't work out the righteousness of God. I advise you not to entertain such disrespect toward women and certainly don't post comments suggesting it either.

 

[FridaysChild]

LovingJesus,

Pack her bags, set them outside, change the locks, arrange for the kids to stay with someone overnight, and kick her out of your home! She is harming your children! Do you want to teach them that what she is doing is okay? That's what they will think if you allow it to continue. She needs tough love. It is up to you to give it to her. I know it is hard! Asking my hubby to leave was one of the hardest things I have ever done. But, I had to do it. And so, my friend, do you. Be strong! Pray to God for strength and he will answer! Seek some Christian counsel.
God Bless you.

I've read through the advice and I'm gonna have to agree with this being the most level headed 1st step to take. I can just see the court asking why no steps were taken if it was as grievous as mentioned and detailed in the OP. To cyc (cover your caboose) take those steps and then seek help to further protect yourself and the children by speaking to someone in authority so you can get this documented. This is where the rubber means the road.

...pausing to lift this situation in prayer

 

[dabodab]

Dabodab, what specificly do you suggest I do

1. Ask GOD for guidance to handle the situation in your home. Fasting has its merits with regards to praying, if you need information about fasting look it up in a good Bible concordance.

2. Speak to someone you trust (not here, eyeball to eyeball) about your situation. Best scenario is a trusted pastor or friend. I'm assuming the counselor you both have seen knows about your wife's sexual behavior? If not make an emergency appointment and spill it all, alone. I'm certain your counselor will give you immediate advice about what to do.

3. Find a support group in Alan-on (codependency group). It's clear you have cut your head off and put it in your pocket instead of paying attention to your wife's lifestyle. That's not normal and you need to learn how to respond to your environment in a healthy, productive way. Let this group suggest books to read. Let this group show you that you are not alone, this behavior has affected other people too. This is a great comfort and can help you open up to new ideas about what next steps to take.

4. I loved seekingg's suggestion that you read the book of Hosea! Do it.

This is is just a beginning. I would suggest that you don't do ANYTHING ELSE until you do the above.

Praying for you, Brother!

 

[tourist]

LovingJesus,

Pack her bags, set them outside, change the locks, arrange for the kids to stay with someone overnight, and kick her out of your home! She is harming your children! Do you want to teach them that what she is doing is okay? That's what they will think if you allow it to continue. She needs tough love. It is up to you to give it to her.
I know it is hard! Asking my hubby to leave was one of the hardest things I have ever done. But, I had to do it. And so, my friend, do you. Be strong! Pray to God for strength and he will answer! Seek some Christian counsel.
God Bless you.

Exactly​...

 

[lovingJesus]

Thank you all for all yor responses!
I truely appreciate you taking the time to give advise. The one thing I'm really struggling with is I have no hard evidence, other than all the lesbian symbols that she wear. Thats nothing. Ive kept dismissing my hunches about the escort thing for many years so Im not possitive about that. I could be wrong. She's always been drawn to watch those types of movies. God will be faithful and bring it all to light I just hope it's soon.

 

[afirelove20]

This is so heart breaking and your kids are in such a vulnerable age. I admire you so much for the strength you have and the love you have had for your wife in spite of the way she's treated you. God Bless you and I pray He guides you through this.

 

[soccermom19]

Hire a private investigator or follow her yourself in a rental car. Copy the history on her computer and/or phone. Have a friend help you. Track her car. Do whatever you need to do to get your evidence as quickly as possible.
I am praying for you.